Yes. Junior year. She came to my school (UMass) on exchange from Chico State for the whole yr. Lived on my dorm floor. FUnny, UMass wasn’t her first choice. Wanted UMD CP but got accepted to UMass.She decided to do it because she’s a huge Kennedy fan and assumed we were all like that. Funny she settled for a Jewish Republican instead of a Catholic Democrat. I must have been on my best behavior!
Met in a hospital doctor’s lounge in the city we both ended up in. He is the reason I stayed. Different specialties and our practices did not overlap. First serious relationship for both of us. Neither of us “fit the mold” for our backgrounds- Indian meets instate, both rejecting childhood religions. Neither of us fit with those from our cultures, the reason we were not in relationships/married beforehand.
I met my now ex the first day of law school and we started dating almost right away. I guess the fact that we divorced doesn’t fit the narrative here but I had two great kids from that marriage and we managed to stay friendly since the divorce so I count that as a win!
All these stories of folks meeting their spouses in college has me discouraged for my S who is now two years out with no girlfriend :(. He’s quite a catch if I say so myself, but I don’t think he knows how to strike up a relationship. His last serious girlfriend was the one to orchestrate things, she had had her eye on him a while.
Not me, but 4 of the 7 women from my jr and sr living suites married classmates (two right away, two delayed a couple of years). And one woman from the doubles on each side of my freshman dorm room also married classmates right out of school.
I met my husband the first day of my first job. He had started working two weeks before me, along with several other new graduates with whom we hung around. After 2-3 years, couples started pairing off, with at least 2 marriages besides mine resulting from the group.
A really interesting book that explores how pairing up has changed between our parents’ generations and our kids’ generation is Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and a sociology prof. It’s funny, too.
We met in college. He was a grad student and I was undergrad. His roommate was engaged to my roommate. They never married but we did, 42 years ago :). However, none of children met their spouse in college.
DS2, who met and became involved with DIL their freshman year, has said they’re the exception in that most of their peers didn’t pair up.
@surfcity, my D grew up around all of our friends who married people they met in college, and she was sure she would never find anyone to marry when college came & went (believe me, we tried to talk her down from that idea). She ended up meeting a great guy a couple years after college & is happily married now. And S met his serious GF online. College isn’t the only place to find a life partner, so don’t worry!
No. We met professionally.
No. He’s four years older and we met after I graduated.
nope. his ex-girlfriend, one of my co-workers at an ad agency, set us. i was 26 and he was 29.
up. 20 years and 2 kids later she still pats herself on the back for making such a good match. it would NOT have been a good thing if I married my first serious and only college boyfriend. i had a lot of growing to do post college.
Thanks @kelsmom !
Yep, we went to the same small school in Ohio. I’m from OH, but he’s from NY. Actually my first interaction w/ him was when I was a FY and he was a Senior. Very very early in the school year I was walking to the student center & he and his frat bros were hanging around outside “surveying” all the new young students. He doesn’t remember this, but says he’s thankfully evolved.
Flash forward 3 years I’m a Junior working at the campus pub & he’s a fresh new Lt, on campus for an annual frat event. We met when I went up to his frat’s block housing to pre-game w/ some friends before I had to go to work. He didn’t want me to leave but I said I could come back at 2am if he wanted. He said yes (though he says now that he never thought I’d actually show up). We started a long distance relationship with lots of phone calls & occasional visits.
Spring of my Junior year he was on leave for a month, and we were psuedo living together at one of his friend’s house. At one point I had to go to class & he had a meeting w/ some military personnel, I don’t remember. All I remember is this was well before cell phones were common & he was very late getting back. No one had heard from him & I was getting nervous. I was heading over to the frat housing to see if he’d shown up when all of a sudden I see him walking up the gorgeous leafy Boulevard in his Deltas uniform… looking just… wow. I remember actually saying out loud to myself … “Oh, I’m in trouble.” Knowing right then I had fallen hard for this guy!
The next fall he proposed in front of the huge Gothic building on campus & we got married that summer. Twenty years, two kids, and god knows how many moves later our eldest almost went to our Alma Mater.
Yes, at a mutual friend’s party in sophomore year. I had a long distance boyfriend who treated me horribly (in hindsight I have no idea why I put up with it) and as of that night, he was history. My H and I have been together ever since. We celebrate the date we met every year in addition to our anniversary! This year it is 47 and 45 respectively.
We met in high school through youth group although we went to different school. He was close friends with a good male friend of mine who I sort of dated for a minute, and he had broken up with his girlfriend. There was a dance at the JCC and he was asking me who he should go with; I suggested myself 
He was a typical 16 year old male and was clueless! He ended up asking my cousin and I went with his friend and we all went together; not the evening I had planned! A month later my chapter had an event and I asked him to be my date; the rest is history. We married two years after college; this summer will be 39 years of marriage and 45 years together.
My son and his wife met in their early to mid 30’s while at Jazz Fest. My son was with a good friend from home and they ran into his now wife who was a law school classmate of his friend. They did the long distant dating for a year, and then moved to the same city and married two year later.
My daughter and her husband met at work in their mid 20s, dated for 3 years before marrying.
Not that I don’t love my husband, but we were young, and I see a whole different relationship with my kids and their spouses. My close friends and I have had the discussion many times about would we have still chosen our spouses if we met and dated them in our 20s or 30s, instead of high school. What did we really know about long term relationships in high school? Again, we are all happily married, but just food for thought.
"Not that I don’t love my husband, but we were young, and I see a whole different relationship with my kids and their spouses. "
@snowball Curious as to what you see different?
Senior year: blind date arranged through former boyfriend’s roommate’s GF…who became my SIL. Married 26 years and counting.
I have 3 very serious BFs before I met H (had contemplated marrying each of them). Am glad H and I married instead. He’s many, many years my senior, but fortunately takes care of himself so he’s still doing great with some aches and pains over the years. We are very grateful for the 33 happy years we’ve been married and the two years we were together before then.
I’ve known very few couples with long marriages I admire, so I am really enjoying these stories.
I met my ex H the first week of my freshman year; he was a senior. I turned to my roommate, after spotting him in the dorm dining hall, and said “See that guy over there in the rugby shirt? I’m going to marry him.” She thought I was insane and wagered $100, which she ponied up at our wedding, which took place after he finished his Master’s Degree.
Grad school.