<p>You could get the answer by reversing your question. Disengaged, coddling, non-parental parents make for difficult children. Children learn to behave by having expectations, consistent consequences, etc, from their families. They learn to take accountability from parents modeling this and expecting it.</p>
<p>Don’t flame me; I realize that it is more complicated than that-- there are always the families of five kids with one snarky kid & four nice kids… And there are always kids with really devoted parents whose biochemistry is off or who have suffered a trauma. But these are the exceptions not the rule.</p>
<p>In the aggregate, if you think of the families you know-- the apple generally does not fall far from the tree.</p>