<p>I agree SBmom. Are we going to be flamed? When you see troubled kids, especially more than one in a family, you can usually look to the parents to understand why (yes, there are exceptions!). Parents who believe their little darlings need to be treated gingerly and ask gently why they feel free to mess up repeatedly. Parents who can relate because they had run ins as kids and their patents didn’t make a big deal over it! Don’t get me started…Some religons make people take marriage classes, why don’t they insist on parenting classes?</p>