“As noted in one of my previous posts, it annoys the crap out of me that some family members show disdain that my DD is pursuing, and being offered, significant merit at places like Pitt, Case, Tulane and the NMF schools of her choice”
Unless they are offering to pay the difference, it’s not their business. It takes two people to have a conversation. Refuse to have the conversation with them. Tell them the subject is closed. If you and your D are happy with the path, that’s all that matters.
Btw, this is also good modeling for your D that you will stand up for her. The opinions of Aunt Betty and Uncle Harold just don’t mean a thing. A single thing.