Thank you so much for starting this thread! This is my first time posting on this site or really anywhere! My daughter is a HS senior. She plans to apply ED to a school that seems like a great fit for her, but I worry because it is a plane ride away. She loves the school because it is small, beautiful, very strong academically, has the social fit she is looking for (no sororities, nerdy students, queer friendly), and small classes. She has made strong connections with her high school teachers and this seems like the kind of place she could do that. Her dad and I agreed that she could apply there ED because it seems like such a good fit and we were hopeful that she would take a gap year if accepted to work on some things. Her application is due Wednesday and she is almost finished, but is starting to second guess the decision. From her competitive private high school it seems like everyone is applying somewhere early and it seems like going out of state to a 4 year college and living in the dorms is the normal way to do things. I was talking with her last night about how that is actually very unusual and she does not need to do college the way that most people from her high school do. I struggle with not wanting her to feel underestimated. She has a hard time socially and hates everyone at her school, but has had a girlfriend for 4 months. She struggles with overwhelm and sensory issues and it is hard for me to imagine her living in a dorm or having to eat all her meals in a loud cafeteria. She also has a hard time with time management skills and is usually late and puts off her work. Her mental health issues are exacerbated by her overwhelm when work piles up and it is the mental health that I worry about the most. I don’t want to hold her back, but now that she is wavering it is making me second guess the ED as well. The school accepts 7% of applicants so I felt like it was such long shot, but now that I am seeing her application take shape I feel like while an acceptance regular might be unlikely, she has a real shot ED. Anyway, I don’t know any parents of kids with ASD and it is so helpful to read about other families with experiences similar to ours.
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