@wis75 thank you for sharing your son’s story. I am thinking among that same lines and not intended to hold her back just because of her age. Mostly concerned with the right fit. Gap year is on the table but only if she will not find a right fit (not gets accepted in U of her choice).
We started visiting colleges on our list and getting a feel of what she likes and dislikes. So far I did not see anything that would indicate she will not fit with the right crowd. People who don’t know how old she is, have not doubts she is 16 (including her teachers at school). All of them slightly shocked when finding out she is 14. It can be good and bad, depending on the situation, though. We do have some time to make final decision, so going with the flow for now 