<p>I hear you OWM!
Bluejr’s safety changed their non competitive scholarship program for oos students on 6/1/10 for students entering this admissions cycle from full tuition to 2/3 tuition. He still stands to receive additional merit from the department but we won’t know until April. Right now it is more expensive than our state flagship and his top choice, both of which have arguably stronger programs. Given his choice, he’s not going oos to pay more money. Having said this, he is very grateful for the scholarship and the admission. He knows with the competitive admission season he may be loving his safety based on no further options. That’s okay…It is frustrating to have that scholarship level slip though. </p>
<p>I’m crossing my fingers for all those still waiting to hear from EA/ED.</p>
<p>Congratulations to your daughter Bella. It’s an awesome feeling when your student smiles and says ‘I’m going to college!!’.</p>
<p>There is an OOS that is popular around here. They used to be very generous with instate tution. I know the mom of a girl applying there, and I bet she is constantly having the conversation (like she had with me), “Oh, how nice, she’ll get in-state tuition.” “Actually no, they changed that.”</p>
<p>My son came home from school today and reported that one of the top kids got denied at Dartmouth but the really talented baseball is in and he didn’t even apply ED. I guess he has known for a few months. He isn’t even going - he’s going to another school on a full ride athletic scholarship. He’s a bright kid but nowhere near the stats of the kid who got denied.</p>
<p>My S couldn’t wait until 9:30 tonight so he looked at his ED notification while at school but called me so that I’d be on the phone: deferred. I just called him back again to make sure he’s OK – says that he’s just frustrated. I feel badly for him because he’s work so damn hard. He still has 2 EA decisions to await this week. We’ll see what happens there but now that this big one is behind us, it doesn’t feel as stressful somehow, or at least for me. Maybe I’ll feel differently on Wednesday when the next one is due.</p>
<p>I must say, I feel really good that most of his other apps are submitted. He’s just waiting to hear back from his counselor on a couple of essays. At least 99.5% of his additional app work is behind him and we can still have a peaceful Christmas. So, I guess we’re in this for the long haul. Glad to be sticking around w/ you guys!</p>
<p>@madbean: you gave me a good chuckle. I tend to look for “signs” when big decisions are pending.</p>
<p>I wish I had the words to express how badly I feel when any of you report a deferral/rejection. This process is truly unpredictable. What is certain, though, is that all of our kids will land somewhere they like and I think they all realize how much their families are pulling for them. I am reminded of a student who reported getting into 1st choice college and his (her?) parents basically said “good for you, now go figure out how to pay for it.” Heartbreaking to feel so alone in your own home. </p>
<p>Congrats bella on the acceptance. I takes so much pressure off to have one in the bag.</p>
<p>So are all your kids excited about going to college? My d isn’t. Yes, she has put in applications, loves getting acceptances, but actually leaving home-no. It isn’t the area that she is tied to since she knows we are moving to another state in June. Where we are most likely moving, she could actually go to a college and live at home, but she doesn’t want to do that because she realizes it wouldn’t be the best choice at all. It doesn’t help that she is fairly shy and lives a nice life at home. She is very logical and knows that she must go away to college but she certainly is looking at it more with dread than happy anticipation.</p>
<p>Excited? Absolutely.
Very happy with all schools on list and happy with choice. Ready to grow beyond these walls and beyond the hs and state etc.</p>
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<p>Sad to say this is the stuff that urban myth and legend is made of…
any student accepted to an ivy has commited to accept a Likely Letter…
and had to have the stats (scores and gpa) compareable to admits…
Ivy League requires that the recruits are in the same range as all admits…</p>
<p>In all likelyhood, the student was being recruited by said ivy (and the athletic recruiting is done very early–so the apps are like an ED app) and perhaps the athlete decided on a D1 with a better FinAid package. Ivies cannot offer merit nor athletic aid…
So the athlete may have turned down the opportunity, yet did not turn down an acceptance. Its a technicality–however the athlete would actually turn down the offer prior to the real admittance. If the athlete acceptance the LL offer, the full app goes to Admissions committee for review. Only the Admissions can offer the student admission. If the Admissions decides to admit, the student would get the LL sometime after Oct 1 (and usually before the first NLI signing period) Its has to be done early or the ivies would lose all of the athletes with selective stats to the D1s on in Nov signing.</p>
<p>So sadly this myth is perpetuated each year when kids who are angry that “someone not as qualified” takes “my spot”…spout this…</p>
<p>And everyone just “knows” this is “true”
FWIW, Best to let it go by as bad gossip.</p>
<p>Ren Mom - hugs to your son. How nice he wanted to share the event with you.</p>
<p>OWM & BI - Reminds of when my nephew applied ED to Clark about 8 years ago. Neither he nor my sister really understood the admissions process. He said it was the only school he wanted to go to (he really just did not want to bother applying anywhere else) and he was guaranteed fin aid due to his GPA. My sister took him at his word and guess what? Clark recalculated his GPA and he got no fin aid, but was accepted; therefore had to go. Hated the school, but too lazy to transfer.</p>
<p>“Sad to say this is the stuff that urban myth and legend is made of…
any student accepted to an ivy has commited to accept a Likely Letter…
and had to have the stats (scores and gpa) compareable to admits…
Ivy League requires that the recruits are in the same range as all admits…”</p>
<p>He didn’t accept Dartmouth’s offer. He turned it down. I didn’t say he wasn’t in the range - I said his stats were no where near the kid who got turned down. </p>
<p>I also said he got a full ride at another school which he has accepted. </p>
<p>And I never said anything about the kid being denied thinking someone got his spot.</p>
<p>From reading the past couple of pages on this thread, wow there’s much pain and sadness with rejections/deferrals. I feel for you guys; it is indeed depressing moments. I had experienced this when Tulane deferred me EA earlier this month. </p>
<p>Anyways…I’m finally finished with all of my college applications! Spent the entire Saturday, plus an all-nighter into Sunday morning to finish the few remaining schools whose applications were not complete, submit it, and submit payment. I felt so relaxed knowing that the past five months had been an emotional roller-coaster ride. A lot was learned, and many sacrifices were made. Emotions were high at various points during the application process, and at times, I was not a happy guy. But in the end, I reached the finish line!</p>
<p>And today was the first day that I didn’t have to worry about college apps. :)</p>
<p>Time to kick back a bit during Christmas, and start dealing with financial aid during second semester. And wait for March/April for my Regular Decisions to come out. :D</p>
<p>Will, thanks for dropping in. It’s always great to hear from a student. And I’d forgotten that link was also written by a student. Some of you kids are so wise!</p>
<p>My feeling go out to people getting hard and frustrating news. Just know we all are here for you.</p>
<p>Dark chocolate and Dramamine … I like the sound of that, kind of like a blues song.</p>
<p>Oh RenaissanceMom! So sorry you are experiencing the less-lovely side of decisions right now. I’m a slow adjuster–and I admire all the kids (and moms) who are making their ways to moving on to new dreams.</p>
<p>I am really glad we have this group to share the bitter with the sweet. And I’m sending a whole lot of support to those who need a bit tonight.</p>
<p>Long but happy day! S got into his top choice via ED today–Wesleyan University.</p>
<p>So happy (and happily surprised!)…but still so busy and with 2 finals tonorrow. So, not lots of time to celebrate, but still lots of hugs and smiles and phone calls and texts.</p>
<p>In fact, I found out via text–my son looked at lunch and texted me…just this: :D</p>
<p>I thought that was a bit cryptic…but effective. Saw the online lettet for myself later just to make sure! Go Cardinals!</p>
<p>Hugs to those with deferrals or rejections…we were so lucky this time, but I still have 1 more to go (Class of 2017) so I’m not out of the woods yet.</p>
<p>Sympathies to all those caught in the rollercoaster of ED/EA. I know I will be in the same place in spring (or a more dramatic one, knowing my tendency to be melodramatic). I just wanted to pop in and give an update on my hurried app to my local HKU. Success! The school agreed and they were really sweet about it so I’m going to have one local app! :D</p>
<p>One day of not being on CC and geez, it’s taken ages to catch up!</p>
<p>Our big news on ED for DD - She’s in! We are done!
She had to call and speak to her Admissions officer who said he’d be happy to see her on campus in the fall. Beyond excited at our house, many tears (the girls only!) We had a mimosa when she came home and balloons- I also had bought a fuzzy blanket a couple of weeks ago and had it monogrammed and with the school name on, so I had that too. I couldn’t sleep the night before as I was convinced I had jinxed her by being presumptuous with having the blanket done. I drove to her school and ‘wrote’ on her car with one of those paint pens - thankfully she thought it was funny and cute and just a little crazy! We went out for a family dinner and had a great time - what a feeling! I hope you all get a bit of this as the decisions roll in.</p>
<p>As for Tulane decisions, I too have a friend who’s kid was deferred. Good match I thought and alum parents, but no…any idea what is going on with that?</p>
<p>Good luck with the rest of the apps and acceptances everyone and have a mimosa on us!</p>
<p>Other than making my home a miserable place, what else can I do to help my d make the transition? I have already tried to stress to her how she will actually have less work in college (she is taking eight classes and they are all tough and time consuming plus she has four extra-curriculars that take up a lot of time). Both her older brother and her younger sister don’t get why she isn’t excited. I could deal with not excited, it is the dreading part that is getting to me. And no, she insists on no gap year. She is committed to doing this just like as if it was yucky tasting medicine she needed to take to get better. She also is super bummed that at least one school she has been accepted to has college starting on her birthday.</p>
<p>MM, I wouldn’t stress about your daughter’s non-excitement now. If it was August, I would be worried but September is more then nine months away and the here and now is much more interesting for your daughter. If she’s shy she could be simply bummed that she’s going to be starting the process of something new once again - not only with her college but with your upcoming move. I’m guessing the closer the date gets, the more interested she will be in the whole thing. If you are looking for suggestions, I would try just backing away and let time do it’s magic.</p>
<p>MM, I have quite a few friends that have told me once the excitement of the acceptances wear off, they have experienced the roller coaster ride of separation. They have decribed it as a “kid on an elastic leash.” They are independent but then they act like they are 6 years old again wanting their mommy. And then when you mother them, they run away again…toddler time all over again. They know the time is coming for them to leave but they vasillate back and forth emotionally on wanting to go, being scared, and not wanting to go. My senior is the oldest so this is the first time we are going through this but from what I understand, it is very normal for kids to go through this.</p>
<p>I also have a D that loves to be home. She loves her room, sleeping in her own bed, having dinner with the family, etc…right now she is talking a big game about moving to the west coast…but recently she has started to realize that she is living a pretty good life. So time will tell…</p>
<p>^^^I can so relate to this! My daughter has been behaving like a two year old lately! We had a brief reprieve after she signed with her school, but it didn’t last long. I know it is mostly stress related, we have a lot going on in our lives with elderly grandparents in and out of the hospital. And I am stressed also, so we are butting heads, a lot. I am really hoping that once she is done with finals this week things will settle down.</p>