<p>Oregonianmom, I’m with you. It is quite a bit harder to wait this time around! My D applied ED and was admitted, so it was all done in December. My S had a strong favorite school but didn’t want to apply ED - I think maybe he didn’t feel comfortable with putting all his eggs in one basket. So now we wait. He has early acceptances from two schools, with eight to go.</p>
<p>It makes a difference to know that other parents are waiting too. It seems like the kids are all fine - it’s just the adults who are stressing out. Part of it is the uncertainty of accepted student visits, and the prospect of high ticket prices if we want to arrange trips at the last minute.</p>
<p>It will sure be great when this is all settled!</p>
<p>I don’t exactly know if D is stressed or not (not as much, anyway, after this week’s news) but she has told me twice now that she’s dreamed about admissions results. So maybe it’s on their minds but they just don’t talk about it with us as much as we talk about it with each other! And probably that’s a good thing. D and I can work each other into a pretty big frenzy!</p>
<p>Calreader - I’m in the same boat as you, same experience with D1. H and I regularly remark to each other how this is SO much harder! But now D1 is graduating from college, and listening to her talk about her job search and fears makes the college thing pale. At least D2 knows in general what she’ll be doing come September. Man!</p>
<p>Emmybet, I’m glad we’re not on the sidelines of work/grad school planning at the same time as the college process is going on for the younger one. That would truly drive us crazy. Our D is applying for summer internships, but she’s sure something will work out so we just watch with interest.</p>
<p>I don’t think my S’s friends talk to each other much about college - which is fine. I think if they were girls, they might know more about each other’s lives :-). They would probably say they know what’s most important to the others, which doesn’t include their college applications.</p>
<p>Waiting as patiently as humanly possible like so many of you. A tad jealous of the merit offers some of you have in hand and completely empathetic with those of you disappointed by lack of such offers. </p>
<p>Asked D2 Friday night what she was thinking about her college choice, and she told me she didn’t want to talk about it. She’s waiting to hear from five schools this month. I may have been cut-off by having told her long ago that she could go 0 for 5 at these schools though I did say that if I were in charge of the decisions she’d be in at all of them. My intention was prepare for the worst but hope for the best. H told D2 he tought she’d get in to (at least one of) the schools which she apparently has interpreted that Dad thinks she’ll get in to all of them! So I may be bad guy right now while dad’s the good guy.</p>
<p>She has three options in hand now, so know she’ll be fine no matter what she hears this month. I do love seeing the countdown numbers getting smaller.</p>
<p>Also waiting to see what kinds of opportunities D1 will have this summer for an internship.</p>
<p>To clarify: Husband is a good guy! He took seven-year old D3 fishing this morning. It was in the 30s when they left. I should be getting lots of work done while they’re gone, but here I sit posting.</p>
<p>^^^^LOL. I certainly hope so. There were some uneven ones that had to be discarded/not sent. H helped with those! He firmly believes that any time he is evening out what is in the pan it must be calorie free too.</p>
<p>Good afternoon all,
So as we sit here awaiting in high expectations…I want to share this moment :)</p>
<p>S1 is back home for his spring break. A year ago he was hoping for his #1 school to say welcome :)…Today he is creating his Linkedin profile…dreaming of big things
What a difference a year makes!</p>
<p>S2 is now awaiting for his #1 to say Welcome :)</p>
<p>Made some pain au chocolat to ease the wait on this very rainy ,ugly day :D</p>
<p>OMG, My S says he knows nothing about where, when or why and his friends college plans. Drives me crazy. I can’t believe they don’t talk about it. </p>
<p>Emmy -I think I am glad my first is going into college rather than graduating right now. </p>
<p>almond cream Heath bar layered brownies --mmmm. Thank goodness those are at your house and not mine.</p>
<p>mamom - I too am surprised at how little my D knows about her friend’s college plans! We have known these kids for years and everyone seems to be mum on next year…it is clear that they are all ready to move on but I find it strange that they don’t talk about it.</p>
<p>My D says they don’t talk about it because few (except those going to CCs) know for sure where they are going to go. The don’t want to pin hopes/get excited and then have to admit they didn’t get in or can’t afford it. A few (two) posted their college on their FB page by liking it, but no one else in the class knows unless they happen to see the update notice about the FB change. Or if a parent asks (as we often do) in front of other students then D will hear about the college choice. Also, the students are trying not to make others feel bad if they have a lot of offers/choices and others don’t. They also just don’t care that much about where everyone else is going except for a very few particular friends.</p>
<p>Kids at my daughter’s school talk about college choices a lot. The Guidance office has posters where the kids write their acceptances. A lot of kids around her apply to instate schools and OOS publics, so many already know wher they’re going. My daughter and her friends have been very supportive of each other as they get results.</p>
<p>My husband and I were out of town for a Bar Mitzvah this weekend, and after everyone asked where our daughter was going to college, they asked how we felt about our impending
empty nest. I see how the kids feel when everyone asks about their college plans. I realized that there is no good answer to this question. If you say that you’re looking forward to it, then you sound like a terrible parent. If you say that you’re dreading it, it sounds like you’re a helicopter parent with a bad marriage.</p>
<p>For those who don’t have enough to worrry about, there is also the matter of selective admission to particular programs. D2 and I went back to her chosen school for admitted students’ day and her academic advisor told her that she will need a minimum of a 3.4 gpa at the end of her first year to even be considered for her program. We know several others kids whose programs require a 3.2-3.4 for consideration. It just seems that kids don’t get any kind of break anymore. I definitely want her to do well and to work hard but it’s scary to think that she might not even get IN. I remember college as a little less stressful but maybe that’s just because it was so long ago that I barely remember most of it!</p>
<p>"S got deferred from a school I read as a match school "</p>
<p>“D also get deferred EA at a match, and it does make me nervous”</p>
<p>I am not trying to rub salt into a wound…but…it would be interesting to know more about schools that were perceived as “match”. I think it might help others on this site when they look to define admissions likelihood.</p>
<p>Were your child’s GPA and test scores in the mid-50% of those admitted last year? Top 75%? Did your HS have Naviance data that put your child into the “match” section of the graph or the “likely to be admitted” section of the graph? Does the school admit 30% of their applicants? 50%? Or were there some other criteria that indicated to you that your child’s application was a match for that school?</p>
<p>“I am making almond cream Heath bar layered brownies”
Recipe please!!! (Unless it’s already been posted on CC…)</p>
<p>We don’t have Naviance. D’s GPA was higher than the 50th %ile and her ACT top 25%, and other kids from our HS with her stats have gotten in there in the past. I think the school takes 40-50% of applicants. We certainly don’t think there is any guarantee at that school, and we weren’t surprised at the deferral. It was just disappointing, and since she has several where she’s more like top 50-60% of accepted students in general, we felt her chances at her other matches and especially at her reaches went down.</p>
<p>But it’s all very subjective. For all we know, there is something special about her that some schools will like. At this particular school, she has no geographic hook, while at others she might.</p>
<p>Matches are very hard to define - and it’s a misleading word. It just means things “match up.” It doesn’t mean “you match - you win,” as in a game. It’s hard for kids to understand that.</p>
<p>OregonianMom, I think we are living (and stressing) in parallel universes! My D also had an ED disappointment and then applied to LOTS of schools because many of them were still reaches. And, like you, I noticed CC chatter about early writes at a school that we were considering a match - wouldn’t surprise me if we were looking at the same one. Our only acceptance at this point is to flagship honors - a great program, but she so doesn’t want to go there. One of the only difference in our situations, I think, is that my D hasn’t had any recent thoughts about a close place for an additional application - the lack of BF might be making the difference there!</p>
<p>So know that there are kindred spirits with you waiting this out. I console myself with the knowledge that she’s a great kid with a great application and undoubtedly several of these admissions committees will see that, as well. And with the fact that I don’t think she’s stressing about this nearly as much as I am - or at least not visibly - and is a resilient young woman who will land in a good place.</p>
<p>And now it may be cocktail time - I love Oregon wines, so I’ll drink a toast to you - and to others on CC - just reading the thread helps a lot!</p>
<p>Emmybet, I completely agree w/ you in the way you defined “match” school. in that respect, it’s sort of like the reaches. a kid may have stats in the top 25% for either a match or a reach, and obviously, still not get accepted. who knows why? it may be that their application just didn’t strike a chord w/ the admissions person who read it, or some other subjective reason. </p>
<p>we have experienced this w/ my S when it’s come to some merit awards. for two of the scholarships he’s applied for he clearly had the stats; the kids who were selected posted their stats/ECs on a thread here and I could see that my S’s aligned w/ theirs. i have no idea why he was passed over. but, he did receive merit awards at two schools for which he didn’t have to apply separately from his common application. you win some, you lose some. </p>
<p>as we all know, this whole process, no matter the profile of the kid, requires luck as well as stats in the ballpark. i was shocked when one of my favorite CC kids (he graciously gave me great SAT studying tips for my S), a 2400/4.0 gpa w/ terrific ECs, including a SAT guide posted here on CC (unfortunately too late for S1 but I downloaded it for S2), was deferred by Yale. if they don’t pick him up in RD, it’s really their loss. This kid has got to be one of the best applicants of this year’s senior class. I don’t think Yale is his first choice but if they had picked him up EA, the powerful psychology of the early admittance might have worked its magic on him.</p>
<p>My daughter is waiting on 9 schools…and I obsessively checked last year’s threads in each of their forums to try and determine when we can expect to hear something! Should get news on two of them in less than two weeks. The rest will be around March 31 or just a little before. Boy, AvonDad’s countdown is sloooooow.</p>
<p>Daughter and her friends don’t talk too much about colleges. She seems to mostly only know where others are applying if it overlaps her list (or same consortium). The one exception is her boyfriend – they spend time figuring out “if you go to THIS one and I go to THAT one, it will be x hours by train…” and she tries not to think too much about choices that would put them on opposite coasts! It’s nice to hear that EmmyBet’s daughter and her guy have made it work.</p>
<p>Now I’ve got to leave before there’s any more talk of brownies.</p>
<p>When my S was getting close to decision day, I could barely keep the anxiety at bay. I know exactly how you all feel and empathize. I am rooting for all of your wonderful kids and can’t wait to hear the results. We’ll share the joy and support each other through the disappointments, I know.</p>
<p>Sometimes it seems as though there is no rhyme or reason to how the decisions are handed out. </p>
<p>college4three…it is definitely difficult to keep the anxiety at bay. We are waiting to hear sometime this month about a fellowship opportunity at one of D’s top choices. If it comes through, she will definitely choose that school…if not, the choice is still between that school and one other! Hopefully we will hear in the next week or so! I have to say I seem more anxious for the decision to be made than does D…although she is always better at masking or controlling her emotions than I am!</p>
Our only acceptance at this point is to flagship honors - a great program, but she so doesn’t want to go there. One of the only difference in our situations, I think, is that my D hasn’t had any recent thoughts about a close place for an additional application - the lack of BF might be making the difference there!</p>