<p>Stillwater,</p>
<p>The pulmonologist has give her permission to continue running and knows about the half marathons she runs. He has not limited her physical activity, just limited flying, sky diving and underwater diving until the surgeries were done.</p>
<p>@Bajamm: rowing is indeed a rigorous sport. My D rowed 4 years of varsity in high school, and spent a lot of time in physical therapy and at the sports doctor, as did many of her teammates. None of the girls on her team got their periods during the season - it was that strenuous, even in HS. Fall rowing is Head races (longer distances, boats sent out sequentially so it’s hard to tell who won until all the times are collected). Spring is more Sprint races, with boats racing side by side for shorter distances. If you’re going to a regatta in November, be prepared to stand on a riverbank all day long in any weather conditions. They’ll delay a race for lightning or extreme wind, but nothing else!</p>
<p>kitchen accident with a knife last night (I am fine, just couldn’t stop the bleeding). I posted this on FB and my D actually called me to check on how I was…ha ha…nice to know if I am injured or hurt she will call…ha ha…</p>
<p>holliesue: Hope you heal quickly! Glad your D called when she found out you were hurt.</p>
<p>**The next new student move-in is Northwestern University move-in on September 12th - Just 5 days to go!
Move-in day is in 5 days!<br>
Labor Day is past. Hurricane season is in full bloom. Where has the summer gone? :eek:</p>
<p>[ul][<em>]Dartmouth College move-in on September 14th is just 7 days to go.
[</em>]University of Chicago move-in on September 18th is just 11 days to go.
[<em>]Stanford University move-in on September 20th is just 13 days to go.
[</em>]The last new student move-ins are the University of Oregon and the University of Southern Oregon on September 22nd which is 15 days to go. </p>
<p>The LAST Move-in day is in 15 days. Just over 2 weeks to go. The launching season is nearly complete.[/ul]</p>
<p>The link to the Move-in Date Thread is <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1141579-hs-class-2011-college-class-2015-move-dates-5.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1141579-hs-class-2011-college-class-2015-move-dates-5.html</a></p>
<p>If you son’s or daughter’s move-in dates and schools are not listed please add them to the list.**</p>
<p>HighHead, thanks for the info! There is not as much rowing as a sport in Iowa as in other parts of the country, so I don’t know much. D is at school at Tulane, in New Orleans, so hopefully the weather will be nicer there in November than in other parts of the country! Though, I guess that standing outside for a boat race in November is probably not a whole lot different than standing outside for a running race in November.</p>
<p>D says the rowing at Tulane is a club sport as Tulane does not have it as an authorized sport. I did see on their website that it seems to be fairly competitive and there was a young woman from Tulane competing at nationals for the spring season.</p>
<p>Anyway, thanks for the info as I don’t know much about it.</p>
<p>Hi everyone,
We moved my daughter into college 9 days ago. I have had contact with her, luckily, everday. Very few phone calls, mostly IMing on facebook so she can have privacy from everyone around her.
Her roommates are very nice, but for the first week, didn’t seem to have nearly as much homework to do, or don’t take it as seriously, all three are honors students, but… I talked to DD one evening and she was worried about getting her calculus done, and decided to do it after dinner. The next day, she told me her roommates had decided to entertain in their room until 5 am. So no calc. DD discovered the quiet study lounge in the dorm and decided it’s her favorite place. </p>
<p>She feels torn though, she doesn’t want to come off as the drag roommate, and she wants to be around to make friends during this early time when everyone is open to making friends, but she also takes her studying very seriously. She keeps getting invites to do things and has trouble turning them down, afraid if she says no too often, she’ll stop getting invited. She’s doing things she doesn’t even care about, like hanging in someone’s suite to watch horror films. She’s more a musicals fan…</p>
<p>She’s been keeping pretty busy but admits she’s a bit homesick when she’s not busy. And she hasn’t really been eating dinner. The cafe closes at 5, and they are expected to cook in their kitchen (something she’s not great at) or go out. She says she’ll eat Wheat Thins or some other snack and then isn’t hungry enough to eat a real dinner. Not good.</p>
<p>Haha Ohiomom my son thinks the food is great too! All because of what he was used to here? Perhaps-although from the couple of times I ate in his dorm dining hall it was good. :)</p>
<p>Sorry for those dealing with roommate issues. He has only told me, when asked, that all his roommate does is sleep! I guess I will take that!</p>
<p>He finally starts classes today! He has been there since 8/27 but did a program for that first week, since then it’s been all welcome week activities. He is so done with that and so ready to get to classes.</p>
<p>I don’t know what the total damage will be from books but the most expensive would be an economics book that comes with an Aplia acccess card-that is $190 but the professor responded to his email not to buy anything until class starts. Everything else hadn’t been bad at all-including getting his Calculus as a PDF for $9.95! I bought several on Amazon both used (great condition) and new, and I have been pleasantly surprised.</p>
<p>He has adjusted very well to leaving the suburbs and three acres to going to a high-rise dorm in a city-much better than I thought he would. He is finding city living and being able to walk to everything very nice!</p>
<p>The school has been very responsive to every phone call or email either he or we have made. So far, so good. One of the things that concerned me was it’s reputation for being a big bureaucracy where decisions never got made but I can’t say enough good things about quick responses and service.</p>
<p>Now my daughter started yesterday and I won’t get into detail-already posted that on my other thread here-but I am not going to survive 4 more minutes with that place-let alone 4 years!</p>
<p>ST - good to hear from you. I think DS will win for lowest amount spent on books. TEN dollars! No complaints here.</p>
<p>Pepper: Are we going to have to “hate” your D’s school like we did kinderny’s? You might just have to start the year with that frying pan in hand!</p>
<p>Roommate issues are rough! When I first inquired, my son said his roommate was a nice kid and someone who he could be friends with. Since that, when we’ve talked or texted, he hasn’t mentioned the roommate at all. Lots of other guys on the hall, but not the roommate. I’ll assume no news is good news or at least neutral news.</p>
<p>Anyone else concerned about their kiddo getting too involved? Mine is used to being really busy, but have to say that when he mentioned all the things that he had signed up for at the activities fair, I was surprised. Club soccer, club ping pong, investment club, volunteering to teach science in the local schools, some sort of improv team, and the list goes on. He’s already been to tryouts and some meetings. I’m hoping that as these things get under way, he picks and chooses which are the most important to him. I’m trying not to get involved, but wanted to ask “you’ll have time to do your work, right??” (I didn’t ask!) I think he is just so excited about all of the opportunities that he wants to do everything!</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>I am UP for this fight!<br>
I thought I was going to spend a gleeful time going through to delete the past emails from the high school (while saving some of D’s work for which she might have future use) and found myself getting angry all over again. (Had to keep repeating: let it go, let it go.)<br>
Pepper please know how much I feel for you. Only you can know what is right for your student. If we had it to do over again, despite D’s vehement objection, we would have probably pulled her after 9th grade. Even she agrees now that would have been best. My sympathies.</p>
<p>As for “too involved” - not happening with my student. She is making connections with others, but mostly hall mates. Not joining anything or going to large gatherings for optional activities. Sigh. Youth is wasted on the young.</p>
<p>Slithy–thanks for your insight. I’m sure they’ve brought the groups back to campus and are keeping them together, although I’m not sure how they manage that??? Are they camping on the quad or what?? </p>
<p>My DH wants me to call the school to find out if he came back to campus. I’m sure he did from their announcement. I don’t want to be “that Mom” who calls. So do I call or do I tell DH to call if he’s worried? I’m not worried–I’m sure DS is fine.</p>
<p>Hollie–sorry for your accident, but the upside was you got a phone call!!! Hope you didn’t require stitches.</p>
<p>It’s raining, raining, raining here. DS2’s first day of school was fine, but he had a ton of Algebra homework. I hope that isn’t the standard–it took a long time for him to complete and he has others classes that will be starting the hw soon.</p>
<p>@VAmom: I’d let DH call himself if he wants to know. Save your calls for when <em>you</em> need them.</p>
<p>@pepper: I’m so sorry that is starting again! Come here to vent when you need to. Do you think your D would consider moving to private school next year now that she’s experiencing the problems rather than just observing them?</p>
<p>Hollie: careful with those kitchen knives! This is not a pattern you want to repeat, even if it does produce phone calls.</p>
<p>I got a call last night, too!!! D sounds <em>so</em> happy and engaged. She is rushing a Capella (yeah, her school rushes music, not Greek life. Go figure.), finalizing her schedule, flirting with a guy, generally drinking from the fire hose. Classes so far are mostly review, but at a breakneck pace so serious work is not far off. It was wonderful to hear her so excited and confident. I missed her so much the first couple of weeks, but am now moving on and love watching our student start to fly!</p>
<p>VAMom - if possible, i’d try not to call; however, when you speak to your son next, you might want to ask him to call whenever his plans change significantly (changed flights, changed hotels, changed itinerary) or if he is an area being subjected to bAd weather (floods, hurricanes). It is common courtesy. My DH and I are way older than all of our kids and we kept my parents and our son and daughters updated frequently as we encountered the hurricanes, floods, earthquakes and tornados during the past three weeks. No matter the age of family members, you still worry.</p>
<p>Re: algebra homework - some teachers assign “busywork” homework with lots of problems that repeat the same concept. Doing 3 or 13 of them doesn’t matter. IF that is the type of homework your son is getting perhaps ther teacher can adjust the required amount for him.</p>
<p>VA, can’t you just do a short email or text your son and just ask if he is back on campus? </p>
<p>Ouch, Hollie. ++++ it heals quickly. I am recovering slowly from terrible bites from my little dog on my index finger. On antibiotic and prednisone. </p>
<p>Pouring here also and tennis at the USO is in a rain delay again. I have nothing on my agenda today and was looking forward to being a couch potato all day. :(</p>
<p>Vamom: Sorry that your son’s trip was cut short. Have you tried texting him to see if he’s back? I’d be worried also. </p>
<p>Leftylou: I hope your D can work out the balance between studying and socializing. It sounds like her priorities are on target. Maybe you can suggest that she try making dinner plans to get some social time in ( and also to eat a real dinner).</p>
<p>Pepper: So sorry that the school issues have started with your D. </p>
<p>Ohiomom: If your son was very active in HS, he’s probably one of those people who thrive on being busy. He’ll probably choose to focus on a few things once he tries them out. My D1 is like your son, and she has managed to keep up her grades while being involved in a lot of campus activities. D2 likes more down time, so I suspect that she will not get as involved.</p>
<p>Hollie: I hope your hand is healing. </p>
<p>Highhead: I’m glad that your daughter is thriving! It does make it easier on us when they’re happy.</p>
<p>emilybee - you can come on over and help me process the next 15 lbs of grapes??? pls? I lost all my helpers today due to the stupid start of school. And if I have to clean up raccoon poop one more morning because they all had one heck of a party on my grapes overnight…so help me, I will employ new methods for bringing in this harvest!</p>
<p>Pepper - Sorry about the schedule issues with dd - our school is big but we get schedules in April with only minor unexpected tweeks (which period, which teacher - not the “class”) over the summer but if you have a problem - you have the whole summer to get it resolved. And only our seniors seem to get the popular cooking classes - dd1 has requested them repeatedly and never gotten them. I’m sorry that it throws off the plan you have.</p>
<p>As for kids taking on lots of clubs - ds has mentioned a number of things he’s signed up for, but I am not sure they will stick. One is parkour - which is like gymnastics-wall-climbing-jumping between buildings - sliding down banisters…and if you knew my son who is a big of a giraffe and clumbsy - you would wonder “what is he thinking??”</p>
<p>VAMom, at D1’s school, all the outdoor groups were brought back to camp out in the gym. Which was a tad difficult, because there was flooding on the lower levels. I think they did camp out one night on one of the quad lawns, and then the sprinklers went on. 
In short, much bonding. </p>
<p>Do have DH call the school if he’s worried, but also check your email box. We received a continual stream of emails from the school Parents association telling us not to worry, that the students were being evacuated from the wilderness and that they’d be safe. Then each outdoor group leader (8 students plus 2 leaders per group) had each student in the group use the group leader’s cell to call parents and tell them not to worry.</p>
<p>Good morning - Sounds like we have the requisite mixed bag of college/home situations. I am sorry to hear of the various injuries and accidents and hope everyone gets better soon.</p>
<p>Good luck to all of the younger siblings - my heart is with those of you still parenting.</p>
<p>Not in the empty nest yet - D1 is with us until next weekend, but we’ll start being in our own house by Monday anyway. And I do get my dog back, too, yay.</p>
<p>Ups, downs from D2. First the downs:</p>
<ol>
<li>Triple has way too little storage, and she is tired of trips to Target to get more plastic storage (but may do it eventually, if someone with a car can take her)</li>
<li>Roommate wants to let a commuter friend “practically” live with them because she doesn’t get along with parents. Might have to have a suite meeting; girl is loud and obnoxious in D’s opinion</li>
<li>Half the laundry machines are broken at her dorm; other dorms just got new ones</li>
<li>Freshman meal plan is more limited than she thought and she needs to talk to them to see if it might be able to be improved</li>
<li>Annoying girl in one class who “won’t shut up”</li>
<li>New friends require a lot of work and planning, not reliable like old friends</li>
</ol>
<p>My response: Sounds like college … good luck … give it time.</p>
<p>Ups: </p>
<ol>
<li>Dorm suite is in great location and spacious, if with little storage. She has no intention of trying to move until next year.</li>
<li>Classes are great, and she loves all her profs. Yesterday she got a sketchbook for her costume class (how cool is that?) and made her Movement prof laugh 8 times (D measures the goodness of life by this). Loves her Lit and Civ classes.</li>
<li>Has plans to do fun things like Pilates and music stuff. Taking it slow on clubs and things because theatre responsibilities outside of class will heat up immensely very soon</li>
<li>Has met some really great new people and knows that will continue.</li>
<li>Other suitemates are all “REAALLLY NICE.”</li>
</ol>
<p>So … Not such a bad first week. Got to talk to her a lot about how to make the change, how to develop an identity (we both agreed we’ve both asked ourselves sometimes, am I the obnoxious girl in class with too many opinions?), how to balance work and social life. I think it helped her when I said practically everything she’s telling me is just how college IS. I’d say the only issue that might make her wonder what life at another school would be like is that Adelphi is not really walkable to anything much at all - although she is learning to use the shuttle bus and has at least 2 people with cars who have said they can drive her places if needed. Also I think once she’s gone in to Manhattan for the first time and that becomes “real,” she will remember why she decided against some other schools that were closer to cities. I think the reasons she chose this school are standing out very positively so far.</p>
<p>I remember having a weeklong orientation before classes started, and there was a whole other transition afterwards. Soon they’ll all be on a lot firmer ground. This thread is so helpful - we have every part of the spectrum represented here, and will continue throughout the year. </p>
<p>I do still feel sad sometimes thinking of my kid sleeping in her bed 1000 miles away (right now more like 2000), but I know this is her time to do this, and she fundamentally really loves being a college student. She’s always been too fussy about details, and these situations are really going to teach her to manage her equilibrium. I can tell she’s approaching everything with that in mind. Even though she’ll have her burn-out times, that’s a relief for me.</p>
<p>AmandaK: Laughing about your grapes and “raccoon poop” issues! If I lived closer, I’d head over to help you with those grapes. (As for cleaning up the raccoon poop, maybe not!) Wishing you lots of rain to wash it away.</p>
<p>Emmybet: Loved that your D made her professor laugh – and loved that she counted!</p>