<p>CPU…and what was said about RM making YOU happy?</p>
<p>Hope all the sick kids are feeling better soon!</p>
<p>S has been home all this week for fall break. It’s been wonderful having him here!</p>
<p>CPU, taking care of yourself is beyond important. I hope you get a resolution that works for you very soon.</p>
<p>Enjoying reading about others parent’s weekends–we did not go. We are so excited to S for Thanksgiving!! That is only 1 month away. I am delighted to report that S is doing magnificently–having the kind of college experience one really hopes that their kid has!</p>
<p>Both RMs are giving up living in the single and I will move in there. </p>
<p>RM literally said “I want to be able to do whatever I want without worrying about offending you.” AKA that’s my cue to leave because she doesn’t respect me. I emailed disabilities office for an appointment, want to move into a single somewhere else that is reserved for people with medical conditions. I’ll have to get a letter from my doctor explaining why.</p>
<p>DS was home for 4 days for fall break, and headed back early for football game and some other commitments. It was really nice to see him for a few days. He asked his dad and I to sign a consent form so he could participate in the school’s big boxing tournament that is a huge charity fundraiser. DH wasn’t concerned with the actual activity of boxing (I was!), but with the amount of time it would take up with training and practice bouts, since he is already really involved. DS told us that boxing would take the place of sailing practice, since sailing takes a break during the winter. Then DS’s midterm grades grades came-4 A’s and a B and none of the classes have been curved, and he’s in Engineering. So…DH relented, I lose, and DS will join boxing for the winter! I really like his face just the way it is! 
Hope there are continued resolutions for those still dealing with RM issues. Just keep reminding them that it is nothing personal - it’s their RM who really has issues to deal with.
Safe travels to all those going to parent weekends.</p>
<p>I had a nice couple of days with S for fall break. Took him back today. He actually said he was “ready to go home”, in reference to school :)</p>
<p>Homecoming at D’s school this weekend. S is an alum and drove in last night for a full day of festivities. Left at 6am for 8am 5K run, alumni swim meet at 11, football at 1, and more until 11 when he thought he would drive back. Yeah, I could do that eons ago when I was young…</p>
<p>Perk for D: not too many direct legacies anymore so since she has an aunt and brother who are graduates she was invited to the fancy food legacy brunch.</p>
<p>D has been home all week. It has been great. She even expanded my vocabulary with a new acronym that gets used to describe activities that are stereotypical or unique to the college experience. The term is CAF (College as …). It makes me smile.</p>
<p>MommyMommy – that’s a terrific gift you’ve assembled for your D!</p>
<p>hsmom2dncrs – those are some seriously good grades! Congrats to your son.</p>
<p>CPU – hang in there and do what’s right for you. There’s only person who’s happiness you are responsible for, and that’s YOU. </p>
<p>jmnva06 – OK, I’m stumped. What’s the F for?</p>
<p>I am jealous of all you folks with kids home for fall break. DH and I will visit D1 briefly next weekend, and hopefully take her and some friends out for Saturday dinner. I am giddy with anticipation. :)</p>
<p>Had one of those mom moments on Friday when your heart skips a couple of beats, when I heard a bomb threat for D’s school on the news. D called to let me know she was okay while news was still on… </p>
<p>she has been busy and studying seems happy and doing well. Currently has 3 A’s and a C (calculus is not her thing…)</p>
<p>I am a bit amazed that some of you know your kids current grades. Although I followed my children’s progress through high school (since it was online and readily accessible), I never had (nor wanted to have) any access during the college years. I suppose that if I suspected or had reason to think that my child was in academic trouble then I might insist on grade disclosure but otherwise I will see how my son faired after the first semester grades are final. I have to trust that my child is doing his best and that if he says he is doing fine, he is. </p>
<p>I tend to be a worrier, which can lead to helicoptering. I have to be very conscious to not over parent my kids (which IS my natural tendency). I do ask my son if he is doing ok in school and he says that he is. I leave it up to him, at this point, to determine what “ok” is. I am hoping that we are both doing the right thing.</p>
<p>seiclan–thinking about your son today as I had to go visit someone at Emory hospital this afternoon. Haven’t been on that campus in decades and really have no idea what it looks like; what I did see around the hospital looks very nice and inviting. Glad your son is enjoying it! </p>
<p>Re: grades–I’m with you–hopefully when they say “grades are okay” that means the same thing to me as it does to them! My college freshman didn’t get truly serious about school until her junior year, and my high school junior looks to be taking the same path!! Thankfully, my freshman is at the school she wants to be, and was never going to get ultracompetitive about being admitted even though her standardized test grades would have opened a lot of doors!</p>
<p>I only know my S grades because he shared them with me when he received his mid-term report. He was excited and wanted to tell us I have no way to “follow” his grades, nor do I want to.</p>
<p>Hi everyone, I haven’t been posting lately but have been following from time to time.<br>
CPU - I hope everything works out for you. Fortunately, my D and her RM get along quite nicely. My friend’s D and hers did not. She found someone who wanted to trade rooms so it has worked out for her.
This Thanksgiving will be different for DH and me. It was decided not to fly DD home for 3 1/2 days at a cost of $700 for airfare. She and two oos friends were invited to a friend’s house instead. S’14 will not be coming home because he’s in the band and will be playing in their football playoff game.</p>
<p>I’ve been keeping up and not posting much myself. My D got home for fall break Thursday night, and will go back Tuesday night. We went to a ballet Friday night and caught up on Project Runway. Today my H and I took her to see The Perks of Being a Wallflower… great movie with Emma Watson. I highly recommend it. We’re going out for Thai food later and then she’s off to go swing dancing with her friends from home a bf. She’s really enjoying being here, although she loves College, and Pmna is perfect for her. Our ballots came in the mail yesterday, so we’ll be voting while she’s here as well - convenient. </p>
<p>She gets along well with roommate after they sorted out some sleep timing issues… now they are more in sync, and when they aren’t the floor kitchen with a nice table and good lighting for studying is practically next door to her room. She says her hall is a little boring… but that’s probably better than it being the party floor… but still seems like she’s making friends. Loves her classes, enjoying ballroom dance a few times a week and being on the BD team, and really likes her work building scenery and making sets in the theater dept. Her boss sounds like a “cool” guy who takes the kids out for snacks, or gives them all See’s candy. She says he’s really good at the technical theater stuff (which you’d expect), but she’s enjoying learning more about it, since she loved it in HS. Her tentative major is still either Math or CS, and is really like both classes she’s taking now.</p>
<p>CPU - hope that housing situation gets settled quickly - I cannot understand these ill mannered kids… and at Harvard no less. Hope those who are sick get well quickly, or more quickly. I can relate to enjoying the chance to take care of them though…</p>
<p>lilmom - we are in teh samep boat: DD will not be home for Thanksgiving. However, this afternoon we bought her air ticket home for Christmas. Anybody else buying airline tickets from December/January yet?</p>
<p>Love all the stories of kids home for fall break!</p>
<p>Lovely birthday visit with D. She took us on a tour of Burlington’s farmers’ market and then we lunched, then back to her dorm to open presents…then we checked into our hotel and took a nap and then took D and her three suitemates to dinner. The girls were all very sweet and smart and gracious, but as H said after: that was awkward. No matter what you say, you’re either trying too hard or you’re sounding like a clich</p>
<p>2016BarnardMom, sorry you couldn’t visit. We took the train down from Boston, but didn’t get to NYC until 6 pm, thus missing events & activities of Friday. Only sponsored event we did go to was the brunch Saturday, where we got a chance to chat with a couple of Barnard students and a parent of each. The main thing was that got to see D (and in her new environment) and to visit with more family. D seems very happy and to be keeping her head above water, but she is not getting enough sleep, which is a bit worrisome. Sorry your D has been sick and hope it’s passed.</p>
<p>We hadn’t planned on flying S home for Thanksgiving because we were sure he’d want to go to GF’s or with her to her grandfather’s, but … they are no longer an item. Apparently, the strain of keeping up the long-distance relationship for two years finally took its toll and although he initiated it, the breakup was said to be mutual and amicable. The mothers exchanged e-mails and the story checks out on her end. Anyway, he wanted to come home and under the circumstances, I didn’t want to tell him no.</p>
<p>We’ve always discussed grades and continue to do so. He seems to be surprised he’s doing as well as he is in math, is doing well in developmental psych and his freshman seminar, and is tolerating French.</p>
<p>He called today to report he’d auditioned for the NU Community Jazz Program and thought he did really well. Bienen has a pretty sturdy fence built around it. NU provides “legit” groups (orchestra, wind ensemble, etc.) for non-majors, but nothing for jazz. Apparently, Phi Mu Alpha stepped in to fill the gap a few years ago and the NUCJP was the result. He’s looking forward to hearing back from them.</p>
<p>SteveC, D and bf are no longer an item, either. It was earlier than a turkey drop!<br>
D knows she has to maintain an minimum 3.3 GPA for her scholarship. So far, she’s doing well and it should be well above that this semester. So far, so good…</p>
<p>S’14 is also doing well with his GPA just under a 3.5. We don’t really ask him about his grades. He was an unmotivated high school student so for him to be thriving in college without his helicopter parents is a great feeling!</p>
<p>Glido - I will be buying D’s winter break tickets this week. I have been watching the prices for a few weeks a now I am afraid the prices may be creeping up.</p>