<p>The room switch process has started (barely). I did some research and they can switch anytime, but the first couple weeks of the semester is more common. I am sure especially at the beginning of the year. We are heading into week 2 of the 2nd semester now. He was hoping things would get better after winter break, but found out quickly, they didn’t.</p>
<p>He will hopefully meet with the RA and/or hall director today to get the ball rolling. One thing I read even said they did not to disclose why they wanted to move and things are kept confidential. I am sure he really doesn’t even care at this point about that and I am sure the RM’s know why since they are the reason behind the switch. :-)</p>
<p>I appreciate all of you who have chimed in on this. I am actually glad he is in a dorm for this reason. One day when he is living off campus, it won’t be so easy since you sign a lease. But-again, this is a life lesson on dealing with people and resolving issues. I am hoping he is not getting his hopes too high-we don’t even know yet if there is a room available. He has to live in a particular dorm due to the program he is in. I am not sure if he can stay in that program if he has to switch to a different bldg. But that is not his top concern right now and once again, a decision HE will have to make.</p>
<p>NervousNellie - Another thought (you may have already considered) if there is not an available room: Perhaps there is a someone on his hall or in the building who is friends with the roommate and is willing to switch. I’m not sure what the particular issues are (if the roomie is really difficult or something) but maybe he is friendly enough with someone that it might work. My son actually did that (and found someone who was willing) just in case something didn’t open up at the break.</p>
<p>Dwhite, that’s how my friend’s D made the switch. Then, they just filed a request to switch as a formality. It’s always easier to grant a change when there’s an available solution.</p>
<p>I am trying hard not to be the helicopter friend. My friend’s D was caught up in the roomie drama last semester. She struggled in two classes and according to my D, who is her BFF, also partied a bit. While she is not failing, she really needed to hit the ground running for a high GPA. She will be applying to a very impacted program after next year and the median GPA is 3.7. Now, she is campaigning to move off campus with 4 other girls. It’s hard to be on the outside looking in. Our girls grew up together and she is like another daughter to me.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, D is safely back on campus. She skyped last night to show us her newly cleaned room (while she left her bedroom here a mess). Her roommate had just arrived but was in distress because the airlines didn’t transfer her golf bag (D and roomie are golfers).</p>
<p>Hello all! I am writing from Cancun, Mexico, after having a lovely massage. My freshman S is here, and I think I have another clue why he likes college so much. The other day while lounging at the pool a couple from Argentina told us how much fun he was last night on the dance floor! My H and I didn’t even know he liked to dance … So funny. I think his major should change from environmental studies to something like “how to sneak out to party until the wee hours.” His sister and him have a room and she is amazed that her little brother is such a social butterfly. His Spanish is getting better here because he likes to meet new people and some of his new friends speak only Spanish. </p>
<p>Now if only he can learn to manage his social needs with his study time when he goes back to school next week. </p>
<p>P.s. the drinking age is 18 here … Take your son’s and daughter’s knowing that. My S is taking full advantage of the all inclusive food and drink.</p>
<p>D is at the airport. Her 4 pm flight was delayed until 8:20 pm. We didn’t find out until we were at the airport at 2:15 so I picked her back up to allow her one more home cooked meal. We definitely didn’t plan on her arriving back in NYC after 10 pm. She’ll be taking a taxi instead of the bus back to the dorm. More $$$$. </p>
<p>It was easier sending her back for this term than it was in August. I didn’t even really cry (just got misty eyed, the first time I dropped her at the airport). It’s easy to send her back to an environment that she enjoys where she has had some successes. Phew.</p>
<p>D2 went through high school with drinking age of 18. Now she is back at the States things don’t seem to change that much for her. She looks kind of mature for her age, when she is out with us she’ll have a beer or wine with dinner every once in a while and no one has asked to see her ID.</p>
<p>Snowflake - hope you are enjoying Cancun. I heard there was a big music festival down there this week. We used to go down there a lot. They have some of the best all inclusive hotels.</p>
<p>Hope you’re not buying that dinner Buying alcohol for someone not of age is a class A misdemeanor or 4th degree felony depending on where you live.</p>
<p>I live in a fairly sane place, by choice. Our kids are allowed to have a drink at home whenever they wanted since very early age. Interesting enough, they rarely do drink when offered.
I’ll ask our kids to take care of the bill sometimes with the card(s) we have given them. By chance if I lived at one of those crazy states, would we still be considered as payees?</p>
<p>We’re not a drinking family. We don’t have/keep any in the house. We’re not against it, just not something we did much of, after kids. We often are left scrambling to go buy a twelve pack of 3.2 at the grocery store for some relatives during the holidays, and 3/4’s of it goes unopened. Never acquired a taste for wine or the hard stuff either. DW and I “partied” pretty hard during our HS and college days, but just grew away from it, and the kids followed suit (as far as we know).</p>
<p>Seriously, not judging. Our neighbors got in a ton of trouble when their DD threw a house party while they were out of town. Many kegs and many minors - nobody got hurt, but I know it cost them thousands in lawyer and legal fees. It’s just a different era than 30 years ago when I was growing up.</p>
<p>Had to look up “twelve pack of 3.2”. Not sure what I would do without the internet.</p>
<p>I am kind of wondering…if I partied hard in HS and college, why would I assume my kids wouldn’t do the same and then also grow away from it later on? I guess my parents also thought I picked up their 50 year old life style when I was 20.</p>
<p>Well, we’ve had a chance to observe in action DD '12 and DS '04 and his W and kids have all hung around over Christmas eve, Christmas day, New Years eve (till the ball dropped), New Years day, football playoffs, etc… if there ever was a chance or reason to “partake” that’d be it. NADA!. Not even a mention or an ask. And we’re open to it, so there’s no reason to be secretive.</p>
<p>In many states those under 21 may drink both in residences and licensed establishments under the supervision (and with permission of) their parents or legal guardians. If you care, Google for it, but its surprising in how many states its legal for a child to have a glass of wine when dining with parents.</p>
<p>D1 left today. She hit the road a little after 10am, texted me from her lunch stop at Kettleman City In-N-Out, when she stopped for gas at Pacheco Pass, and one last time after she pulled up to the curb of her friend’s house ~5pm. (She is staying for the week at the home of a college friend, while intern-ing in Silicon Valley.)</p>
<p>I’ve been thinking about how nice it was to have D1 home over winter break. But really, this isn’t her home anymore. She is just an occasional visitor, like our other friends from colder climes who pop in for a mid-winter thaw. We’re just a place she stops in on breaks from her “real life.” </p>
<p>Only 3 people live here now. I make grocery lists with the foodstuffs the three of us like, and set the table for three. If I cook four servings of something, there will be leftovers for the next day’s lunch. The laundry runs less often, and we can all read on the toilet at the same time (2 1/2 bath house).</p>
<p>giterdone, I am sure you feel very good about how you have raised your kids and how pure they are in this crazy world. Most parents on this thread are very responsible and know what’s best for their kids. This is not the place to get on the soap box about your own agenda. Do I necessary agree with every decision people have made for their kids on this thread? No, but I am not those kids’ parent. I will just leave it at that.</p>
Buying alcohol for someone not of age is a class A misdemeanor or 4th degree felony depending on where you live.</p>
pretty hard during our HS and college days, but just grew away from it, and the kids followed suit (as far as we know).</p>
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