Parents of the HS Class of 2012 - New beginnings

<p>Boo! Did I scare you? The unrecognizable stranger?!</p>

<p>I keep telling myself to get to CC and be better about hanging out with y’all and seeing how everyone’s doing but then all the sand runs out of my hourglass again. I do pop in to CC sometimes but usually when people are sending me PM’s with specific questions they think I may have the answers for. LOL </p>

<p>1012mom - I like the methodical way your daughter decided on a major!</p>

<p>NervousNellie1 - So glad your son was able to get away from the toxic RM situation!</p>

<p>Creekland - Keeping fingers and toes crossed for a good health prognosis!</p>

<p>Oldfort - I’m so very sorry to hear about your dad.</p>

<p>Because y’all have always been so good about helping this single parent get thru the last 3 years of preparing for and living through the college app times, the many decisions along the way, the stress of some bad parts to that, the shared smiles through the good parts, assistance with the big move-in and first year of college, support when I could’ve gone to drug mule prison over a red garment bag (!) and all sorts of great advice along the way, I wanted to share something special with you. </p>

<p>My kid is already looking ahead to the possibility of grad school (ok, she always has been!) and she recently found out she was selected as one of 30 McN@ir Scholars at her college. I already told a few buds from here about this so they have to hear about it again. LOL Forgive me for swapping out the “a” in certain words with a “@” but the kid attends a small college so while I want to go ahead and share some stuff with y’all, I try not to make identifiable posts such as this one come up in CC searches!</p>

<p>"The Ronald E. McN@ir Postb@ccalaureate Achievement Program is designed to prepare students who have traditionally been underrepresented in graduate studies for graduate work leading to a Ph.D. As participants in the program, students will have access to skills building courses and tutoring, research experiences with a faculty mentor, and individualized assistance through the graduate school application process. Students must meet the eligibility requirements for the program and must show an interest in attending graduate school. </p>

<p>Benefits of Being a McN@ir Scholar
•Access to individualized advising and career planning
•Tutoring available to maintain competitive GPA
•Stipend paid for conducting research (also includes room and board)
•Assistance with graduate school application process
•Financial support for graduate school visits and presentations at professional conferences
•Application waivers and fellowships available nationally exclusively for McN@ir scholars."</p>

<p>She’s going to do a 6-week research project on campus next summer and will stay in a campus house with several other students who were also selected for this program. </p>

<p>She’s in an incredible place for her, attending a college that has already given a very hard-working, low-income student a ton of FA, great friendships, and other support. Because of all her merit and need-based aid there, I still only pay for her textbooks. Every time they send me a statement that says, “you have a credit, send no payment”, I just about burst into tears. That has been the case with every single statement from them, by the way. Now they’ve selected her for this program that can assist her in her preparations and desire to attend grad school one day and I couldn’t be more thrilled for her. She still has plenty of work to do to get herself there but it’s nice that her college wants to try to help her with her big goal. </p>

<p>Her college had popped up on our radar when she was a HS sophomore but she told me she wasn’t going to put it on her list of possibilities because they didn’t offer the exact regional studies major she was interested in at the time. (she wanted one a bit broader even though their major was where her true interests lie) But we took another look at it in her senior year after 2-3 people in this group were talking about what a great college it was. So thankful for y’all and your recommendations! She is loving her college, is president of two school clubs, the rep for her campus theme house, and about to submit her application to study abroad in Tokyo for her entire junior year. (thankfully, her generous FA will follow her there too!)</p>

<p>^Woody, congrats to your daughter and to you. What a wonderful story. Also a great story for others still looking for their kids colleges about finding a place that wants the student, offers merit aid and a truly wonderful experience.</p>

<p>Woody, congratulations. It is a great story. You must be very proud. It is always nice to hear a success story.</p>

<p>I got goosebumps reading that, Woody! As a single parent, is your nest empty now? I will be a single parent empty nester come September and it is starting to freak me out a little bit.</p>

<p>“I just about burst into tears”</p>

<p>Its all that good Karma built from mentoring girl scouts.</p>

<p>Woody, news that good deserves to be shouted from the rooftops. Congratulations to you and your wonderful D!</p>

<p>Yay for woody’s D!!! I completely get where you’re coming from :)</p>

<p>woody35 - so glad you jumped in to share such wonderful news - congratulations!</p>

<p>Congratulations, Woody and daughter!</p>

<p>Just curious - how many of you are getting requests to donate to the college your child is currently attending? Just got a letter yesterday - I feel like I’m already “donating” a pretty hefty chunk of change there every semester! It seems like they could at least wait until the kid graduates, lol.</p>

<p>Woody - so happy for you both! Congrats!</p>

<p>bookmouse - we hardly got back from dropping S off before the solicitations began. We get invited to functions quite frequently, and we get quite a few things emailed and mailed to the house and a few times a year we get called. My husband actually donated a small amount to the college services department - we’re now officially on some list now. He’s just about banned from picking up the phone now.</p>

<p>Book mouse- also got the letter today. I put it right into the recycling without opening it.
Woody- what wonderful news. Your D’s school is a real gem.</p>

<p>Funny enough we got an invite today! Apparently the pres of the college is coming to our city and they’re pulling together a fundraiser. </p>

<p>We’re heading up for alumni/parent weekend tomorrow. I’ll have to pass along my regrets to being hit up for more money.</p>

<p>Funny, our phone rang tonite and I saw the college’s name in the caller ID. I got a little concerned like maybe my son was in the health center but oh no, they were calling to have us donate to the parent committee. The young man rattled all the things the parent committee supports one of them was wifi on the campus. Really. the parent committee is responsible for providing money for wifi?</p>

<p>They must all do the calling the same week. D’s school called Thursday–more aggressive than in the spring! Asking for a certain dollar amount, wanting to get the credit card over the phone to save postage, yadayada. I asked for the card to be mailed and we would decide the amount. Not good enough, she needed an amount. Too pushy, so I said $25. And that was the end of the conversation. Not impressed with the tactics; they will get comments on the donor card I receive.</p>

<p>On a happy note, D called to say she got a 95 on the first orgo test! She has a chem brain so I was not surprised, but she put a lot of work into studying for this. Other classes are sophomore writing and stats (they are on quarters). With her sport and TA for Chem 1 lab, she is very busy.</p>

<p>2016BarnardMom - I’m doing all right with the empty nest thing. This kid is the youngest. Her only sibling just turned 30 this week but he’s been out of the house for awhile since he spent 6 years in the Navy and is working locally now. One good thing is that I no longer have to get up early on my days off from work to drive someone else to some event or to be housebound for periods of time while my car was borrowed for hours! They like the “freedom” of college with no parents around but there’s definitely
some parental freedom involved in empty-nesting too. LOL </p>

<p>texaspg - “Its all that good Karma built from mentoring girl scouts.”<br>
Hah! Buddy, this is my 15th year in GS. LOL I’m doing a lot of work with high school GS since I’ve been on our council’s Gold Award committee for about 4 years now. I shepherd them through the Gold Award process and I’ve got about 10-11 girls I’m dealing with for that right at the moment. One new girl’s project is to try to help more low-income students understand better about the college app/prep process. I made the Gold committee assign me that girl but she doesn’t know yet that the focus of her big project is something I’m quite familiar with. LOL</p>

<p>glido - Thank you a million times all over again for helping me with all the FA package comparisons/analysis during my girl’s decision process! I could read it all and was working the calculator quite a bit but it really helped to have someone else making sure I wasn’t missing anything important! </p>

<p>dentmom4 - 95 on orgo test - woohoo!</p>

<p>congrats to woody’s D and I agree that the karma for the GS work is giving you points, but woody’s D is doing a lot on her own!</p>

<p>D received a rejection from an application from the job fair she attended a few weeks ago. It will be the first of many, I’m sure. But I hope since she plans to do the formal coop program that there will be plenty of employers with openings for her and her classmates.</p>

<p>We get the solicitations all the time. Nothing extra from us at the moment,I think it is more for the kids to contribute to their own alma maters (if they wish) maybe when they have graduated we can restart the donations to ours</p>

<p>Jackief, sorry your daughter received a rejection from the job fair. I’m sure you told her to keep at it and that it is a numbers game. My son was very discouraged when he got multiple rejections for paid summer internships. I encouraged him not to take it personally and just keep sending out applications. After sending out about a dozen applications, he eventually got a great paid internship in his field with a top company. </p>

<p>Update to an earlier topic about kids with too much on their plates- especially engineering majors- my son said he had to give up the 6 am work-outs because he just wasn’t getting enough sleep. Something’s gotta give I guess.</p>

<p>Wow-everyone must be really busy! It’s been awfully quiet on here. :-)</p>

<p>S is right in the middle of midterms and figuring out classes for next semester. Off campus housing fair is the middle of November. Hoping he will come away with a better idea of where to start. It all seems a little daunting and it seems like the availability of places go really quickly once December hits. I would love for him to live in the moment but there is always so much planning ahead at this phase in his life…classes, housing, etc… He really needs to get a move on to see options for RMs for next year. Can’t very well look for places until you know how many bedrooms and what area everyone can agree to live…</p>

<p>Move he made to a different room was about a month ago and it has turned out really well. Wish I could get the inside scoop to see if horrible old RM got a new RM yet. I do know a lady whose S lived about 3 doors down from my S. He would know, but haven’t figured out if I want to show my nosiness out in public.</p>

<p>Hope everyone is doing very well and kids are all staying happy and healthy!</p>

<p>Glad the rm switch went well, Nellie.</p>

<p>Not much has changed here - except it’s official that I have a brain tumor - hopefully benign.</p>

<p>Tonight is the night I plan to tell college boys. I did let middle son in on what we knew at the time when we were in FL (a great trip - well worth delaying the appts for). Oldest knows nothing at this point. (Middle calls or e-mails weekly - oldest rarely contacts us being totally content to have flown out of the nest.)</p>

<p>Meanwhile I’m trying to find the treatment success rate of flying to Bora Bora for a month and basking in the ocean + views… it would even give youngest a head start on his Marine Bio. ;)</p>