<p>DD is much as described above-- and I can’t quite blame her! A 90 is pretty darn good. But of course a 95 would be better. She has no wants and hates to have me spend money on her, works hard at her summer job and saves enough to pay for most of her own clothes and outings. I think I’m just going to have to be content with the 91 average unless someone can give me another idea. (I’m not going to actually take privileges away because she only has an A- !) (Is this more bad helicoptering?)</p>
<p>LOL Gwen Fairfax. We were just trying to get our DS to spend the 20 minutes it takes to get the 95, rather than the 5 minutes it takes to get the 90. He’s capable of getting it, he was just being lazy. I should add that the 95 is an average of all classes, including the 98’s kids get in art and gym. So, he was getting 87’s to 90’s in his core classes with almost no time input. He’d spend 5 to 15 minutes studying for a test and get a 89. Silly, when he’s quite capable of studying for an hour and doing much better. He was just lazy. We tried to motivate the lazy out of him since as a 14 year old freshman the whole college selection process was just not on his radar. He could have cared less. Now, as a junior he does “get it”. However, there are times when he drives me crazy. Like the math summer assignment that is counted as a test grade. </p>
<p>DS: “Yeah, I think I have about 3 wrong.”<br>
Me: “So why don’t you got work on those three”
DS: “not really worth my time”
Me: “It’s an easy 100 on a test grade.”
DS: “Whatever. I’ll think about it.” </p>
<p>Ugh.</p>
<p>This is my kid too!! (Though she works really hard, honestly, and it’s hours more than minutes) But at the last minute, when she could go over the paper and differentiate between their, they’re, and there…she’s had it, and if I make so much as a peep I hear a lecture about how her ideas are important and I should be above little things like grammar.<br>
Perhaps she can explain that to the College Board when she takes her SAT</p>
<p>My two girls are polar opposites. D1 is more the 90 is an A 99 is an A type person. D2 wants every point. D2 stresses too much and D1is overall a much calmer person. both ambitious good kids. I think people would be happy to have my kids, and although my D1 was capable of getting into an IVy she didnt and is quite happy and sucessful where she is. I didnt stand over her and perhaps I should have, but she is now very self motivated and doing well in college. It is their path the way they pattern their life, there is just so much i can do. and it has to come from within, there are pluses and minuses to both.
Brandeis is an awesome school. Bowdoin is as well. loved both.</p>
<p>We’re sending our first kid to college in two weeks. When he was in kindergarten, his teacher said he was “bright” and he tested into the gifted program. He got through 6th grade with flying colors and then hit the brick wall in jr. high. His grades and attitude plummeted. He had not interest in busy work and couldn’t handle the “freedom” of being somewhat anonymous in a big school. Anyway, fast forward to 2010, he graduated with a solid B+ GPA and is going to a school that is the right fit for him. Smarts alone isn’t what gets you into college - its hard work, too.</p>
<p>Depending on how school transcripts look, there may be no difference between a 90 and a 95. Our local HS uses percentage internally, but the world only sees the letter grade and GPA based on the letter grade (and weighted for the course, but only for the first 3 honors classes).</p>
<p>At our local high school, the report card or transcript only shows the letter grade (not even a + or a -). So, a 90 is an A and a 103 is an A. The GPA is calculated on a 4.0 scale, with AP and pre-AP courses getting an extra point (so, an A in regular sophomore English is 4.0, but an A in pre-AP sophomore English is a 5.0).</p>
<p>My daughter had one friend who spent two years making sure he never had under a 97 in any class. It seemed a little obsessive to me.</p>
<p>Now, at the high school I went to, everything was done by numerical grades. There is really made a difference whether you had a 90 or a 97.</p>
<p>Mine is also 90 and 97 are the same A type. I didn’t know there were so many like her. I get lectures from D all the time too when I try to just dot or cross it a little. So hard to watch.</p>
<p>My son is the same. To him, an A is an A and he is just as happy doing just enough for the 92.
On another note.
My father in law passed away this morning from kidney failure. He refused to get dialysis and died as he lived, his way. My husband is sad but not devastated since his dad chose his path. I am a bit sad that he wouldn’t even give it a try. Seems like such a cop out on life. He was a spry 81 (leaving behind his wife of almost 25 years…who is under 60). I don’t get it. </p>
<p>My son is having a bit of trouble focusing on his homework tonight.</p>
<p>seiclan, I am so sorry for you family’s loss. {{hugs}} to all of you.</p>
<p>I’m sorry for your loss seiclan. My thoughts are with you and your family.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry to hear that, seiclan.</p>
<p>seiclan - I am sorry for your lost.</p>
<p>seiclan, so sorry to hear about your FIL.</p>
<p>Seiclan, sorry for your loss. My own mother did not want dialysis either (she was in her 80’s), and naturally, the same result a few years back. We still think about why that choice.</p>
<p>Seiclan - I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.</p>
<p>seiclan, I’m sorry for your loss. May your happy memories comfort you.</p>
<p>I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family.</p>
<p>Seiclan my condolances as well.
many people do not want dialysis, it is a life time of being chained to a machine, and it also is not easy, people can feel awful on it, drastic changes in blood pressure etc… not an easy route. sometimes I think if yo have had a really great life, it is harder to be sick. brave choice</p>
<p>Sorry for your loss, seiclan</p>