<p>He knows Cs aren’t going to cut it. It’s just a matter of what is he going to do to not get Cs. Seriously, no one is going to tell him anything he doesn’t already know. I can’t even say the kid is lazy. He just has major executive functioning issues but not severe enough for any real accomodations once he gets out of high school. He has an IEP only because of his Aspergers diagnosis and that really only gives him extra time to turn in his assignments. He rarely takes advantage of that though because he doesn’t think it’s fair to the other students. He’ll bring an F up to a C but won’t do anything to bring the Cs up. Surprisingly though, he never misses a deadline for the many collaborative projects his school requires.</p>
<p>He’s going to have to learn how to compensate but he keeps overestimating his ability to remember and follow through so the reminders, lists, etc don’t get done because he doesn’t think he’ll forget.</p>
<p>Ree: I have no good advice except to say to take a deep breath & this too shall pass. It’s way easier said than done though.</p>
<p>We have our tour of Lafayette booked for 3/30 & just got the postcard about the Open House this week. Ah well. Flights are booked & plans with friends & family are made so it will stay on the 30th for us.</p>
<p>Reein- So sorry you are dealing with this with your S. Keep in mind that I do not think CConfidenital is the norm- most students/parents here are either high achievers (or not sharing al the gory details). There are plenty of C studnets that find a college and succeed in college. A dear friend in college always used to say “Cs get Degrees”. He is 1000 times more successful than I am today. I know another C student that is in college (getting C’s) and functioning and having a great time. A’s are not the only path to school. </p>
<p>But I do understand your concern with readiness. My DS who is a freshman has a similar DX. It is hard to fathom him ever being ready to be on his own.</p>
<p>I feel like clueless (or maybe just checked-out) parent of the year. S2 woke up late today and when I asked if he didn’t have class today - he said that it was the first day of state testing and he didn’t have to go to his first class. I had no idea. Big change from elementary days when I would make him a good breakfast and sharpen his pencils. Luckily we had food in the house to make him a lunch because they don’t serve cafeteria lunches on testing days!</p>
<p>Thanks for the support. I think frustraded is just going to be my default mood for the next 18 months…lol. The kid missed the 2 week window required for transcript requests for a summer paid internship opportunity that HE initiated interest in. He set a reminder in his phone, but left the phone in his coat pocket in his locker (which is his normal routine). I asked why didn’t he put it in his iPod touch, which he carries 24/7. He said he didn’t think about it. I didn’t suggest that he still see if they’d be willing to send his transcripts. This is one lesson I’m willing to let him learn the hard way. It looks like his summer will be spent taking a class at the community college.</p>
<p>nellieh, yeah, I too agree that Cs get degrees. I think his way to his will be a little tricker than ideal but I have his back regardless. </p>
<p>megpmom, our state testing starts next week and runs until the end of April. I don’t know how much of the day is devoted to testing, but a month and a half seems like a big waste of instructional time. Our school district just went through a huge cheating scandal and the state department of education is not allowing teachers to administer the tests to their own students.</p>
<p>We did the same thing last year when our D missed the deadline to apply to be a ‘Junior Counselor’ at the summer camp that she loves. We reminded her a week-out, yet she missed sending in the paperwork. We took her to the camp to drop her younger brother off last summer, and it almost killed her to see all of her friends (who did make it as Junior Counselors) working there and having fun. As she drove away she vowed to get the application in on-time this year. She did so, and will be a Junior Counselor this year! </p>
<p>So…in my opinion…you are on the right track. Let him learn this lesson so when application deadlines are looming, he’ll be more on-it!</p>
<p>Poor S3 is crazy busy, but the light is at the end of the tunnel. Tonight is opening night for S3’s play. He had 3 tennis matches last week and has 4 this week. Which means he leaves the house every morning at 7:30 AM and returns after 10 PM. We are bringing him dinner every night so he has something to eat. D1 is coming up for tonight’s show and S2 will come home for Saturday’s show. Luckily we did not sign up for tomorrow’s SAT.</p>
<p>DS is home, stomach flu (to put it politely)…and last day of finals. Next week will be crazy busy for him making up those tests. We have college visits scheduled this weekend. He may just have to stay home and take DD’s word for it. Hopefully this is a 24 hour “bug”.</p>
<p>Hey, good luck to all our test-takers tomorrow! As a group, our January test-takers seemed happy with their results; may the March group be as happy.</p>
<p>I totally jumped through hoops yesterday for ds2, making a summer program app happen for him by yesterday’s postmark deadline. It was almost comical and just such a challenge that I couldn’t let it go. He, of course, said thank you while I was fuming and we were driving around trying to find the post office with the last postmark deadline. I bet you money he won’t make it as he’s been rejected the past two years, but it’s the damn principle of seeing whether he would be rejected a THIRD time that made me do it. I should have my head examined.</p>
<p>S2 just breezed in and out after school. Today was the last day before Spring Break. I reminded him to be home early since he has the SAT in the morning. I know for a fact that he hasn’t removed the blue study guide (purchased for older sister and never used) from the bookshelf. His goal is only to break 500 on each section, so I shouldn’t be too worried. I would just be so interested to see what he could achieve if he actually applied himself. </p>
<p>Interestingly, I met up with a friend of mine last night who is on our school board. Turns out that both of her kids are “taking a break” from college due to being totally unprepared for college work. And both of them were honor students in our HS. At least the school board realizes that our district is not really preparing kids for college. Not sure what they can do to fix it, but it’s good to know that I’m not the only one that thinks our schools are underperforming.</p>
<p>Got home from work and saw that the parking lot to my apartment complex was empty. Spring break for the college around the corner from me starts today. I picked a good weekend to do laundry :)</p>
<p>Loved the “Zits” cartoon. Thanks to whomever posted it for us! I have already sent it around this morning </p>
<p>DD is taking the SAT this morning. There’s a good chance that I am more nervous today than she is. Since we don’t live in the same state, Hubby and I have ordered flowers to be delivered to her today - as a congrats on getting through her first official SAT. Let’s just hope she feels good about it and the flowers are a welcome sight. sigh…</p>
<p>Hi everyone, thought today was a good day to introduce myself to this thread! D2013 is my second child through this process, but so different from DS, so I definitely feel like I’m starting all over.
I just dropped DD off for the SAT, and hoping for the best! We had a rough week so DD isn’t going into this in the best state of mind, but I think she’ll be fine.</p>
<p>I’m trying to figure out visits - we’ve done one weekend visit (to a school that will stay on DD’s list, but not as a top pick.) I wanted to get her thinking about it, but not start with a top choice, and this univ. had a recent Saturday visit day.
Unfortunately, because of a spring sport schedule, we won’t be able to take a tour over spring break, so we’ll have to make summer visits.<br>
We live in a state/ metro area with a very high cost of living, so FA will be limited by that. DD is adamant that our flagship state uni is not for her, (for a bunch of understandable reasons) but she’ll apply to one of our other state schools. Unfortunately, we have some of the most expensive state schools and they only give loans, so we’ll probably find better deals in the private school market.)
I’m looking forward to the journey - and dreading it at the same time! lol</p>
<p>D is finally taking the SAT today! It seems like we have been talking about it forever! I honestly do not know what to expect. She has taken a few practice tests and has been doing pretty good…much better than the PSAT. I just hope she is able to do her best and feel good about it. I know she was well rested and seemed pretty enthusiatic this morning, even though she was dreading it a bit last night. I am still definitely more excited than her, and she said to me this morning, “You know, Mom, I don’t get to find out the results today!” Too bad that isn’t the case. I like immediate gratification and/or hate postponing the unfortunate! Anyway, good luck to all the testers today!</p>
<p>SAT is done. Finally. D said that she felt good about the test, even the math, although there were some problems that stumped her. I imagine that she will score high reading and writing, low math, as her practice tests indicated. She was more prepared mentally, though, having been through the ACT and scoring a 29, she didn’t feel like it was make it or break it. Who knows. Now to wait for scores. </p>
<p>The visiting colleges thing has been much harder than anticipated. D decided not to visit Grinnell or Drake, but might visit Wartburg, which is just a few hours drive. Same with Truman. Was planning on visiting Truman during Junior Days, but now another school has a group visit that day which might be more advantageous. There are three groups of schools that I really want D to see: MN(6 hrs), WI(8-9.5 hrs), and OH(10 hrs). I love to drive, but don’t know where to find the time. The only fly away school D wants to visit is Smith. I just keep looking at everyone’s calendar, hoping that the answer will just jump right out at me! D did finish her third quarter with 6 A’s, 2 B’s, so at least still moving in the right direction.</p>
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