Hi everyone. We are still on the USS Indecision, which is agonizing for us all! It’s been narrowed down to three; each having its own “vibe,” so to speak. The admitted students events made things more complicated than we anticipated.
On another note, can anyone tell me how to send a PM to someone on CC? I have a very specific question about a particular school.
Thanks in advance!
@shugmom, click on the person’s name and that will take you to their page. On that page, there will be a “Message” button that you press and then you’ll be able to send a private message.
@mom24boys, I’m so sorry - @giterdone gives some good advice!
We are back from our trip to do overnights at 2 of her top 3 schools, and she is still officially undecided, although I think she LIKES Seton Hill (and the way they are making her feel so special)* more than Baldwin Wallace, there are compelling financial (costs less, all fees/books/laundry/printing are rolled into the room & board costs) and career reasons for going to BW (100% of their music therapy students pass the MT certification test the first time they take it, and 100% of their graduates are working in the MT field).
*We came home from the trip and there was a birthday card from SH, signed by the admission staff, containing a gift certificate to their bookstore. That’s just one example.
She still likes College of Wooster the most, but we don’t have the financial aid packet yet - she was on the waitlist, she got a substantial music scholarship after her audition, but nothing else yet.
Thank you so much, suzy100.
It’s not even lunchtime and I sure could use one of those fruity drinks!
Still undecided here as well. Prom was this past weekend, and a 36 page calc packet, so no time for decisions. This week is the spring play, with late rehearsals all week, and shows Thursday-Saturday. Hoping that Sunday will be decision day. He did basically narrow it down to two, and of course H really wants him to choose the one S is leaning away from. Arrggghhh. Fruity drinks needed here!
D is off by herself visiting 3 schools this week. I hope that she has a decision when she returns.
I have to say, having just read through about a week of posts here, I’m shocked that there is still discussion of school decisions from anyone who had an ED acceptance in the mix. It’s so wrong for so many reasons, almost all of them having to to with other kids, not the applicant. It’s not just that by holding multiple slots there are fewer out there, but making the ED system fail by deliberately ignoring the rules puts kids from that high school at an admissions disadvantage in the future. Throw an athletic recruitment into the mix and that really DOES affect specifically one or two other kids, since athletic spots really are one-offs.
I understand 17-18 year olds being selfish and having no foresight. I don’t understand parents letting this play out for months. I don’t understand adults deliberately harming teens, even if they have no personal connection with those teens. The situational ethics are highly troublesome, and I think it sends a message to the teens of “rules are for other people”, which I really don’t want my kid thinking as she heads out into the world. And I don’t want the kids she’s going to be living with feeling that way either.
I also don’t understand the high school guidance counselor allowing it (as opposed to having a private conversation with each admissions office) since guidance counselors are repeat players, even if individual students and parents are not.
Amen, @IJustDrive. It’s one thing for parents to be fuzzy on the ED rules (although if their kid is considering ED, the parents need to educate themselves ASAP); it’s quite another for a parent to know how ED works and then to come up with a bunch of B.S. reasons why ED rules don’t apply to his/her kid.
It hurts the integrity of the whole program, and it’s frankly an a-hole move.
Hi all I am also returning to catch up after a hectic week!
My daughter decided last week the deposits are paid and the other schools have all been notified!
@IJustDrive I do not know much about ED since we never went that route but I know enough that once you have an ED acceptance the other schools applications if any need to be withdrawn unless there is some unforeseen financial issue. Is that correct? In any event any issues with those would have long been resolved by now correct?
I think it’s important that the information on this thread is accurate as I know from my own experience especially my first time through I relied on this parents thread a lot.
Well anyway my daughter is very happy and so are we!
Good luck to all of you still waiting for them to choose!
Very well said, @IJustDrive and @HeliMom74
@IJustDrive and @HeliMom74 I sent you a PM.
My nephews and nieces have used ED. They all had a single dream school and once they were accepted, I don’t think anyone or any amount of merit money would have moved them to submit more applications or have any outstanding ones remain. They were DONE. (Parents knew they could manage the COA in a way acceptable to them.)
I wish D had followed her cousins. I’m still waiting for her decision…(tap tap tap)
I think “we” have made a choice, I think I have finally given up on D wanting to attend the flagship, and I am embracing her choice of East Carolina University - Honors College. She has been chatting with other students and I think she has found a roommate, and she is looking forward to a sailing weekend in May with the other HC students. My alma mater is turning up the contact these days, but too little too late.
I was comfortable talking about it socially this weekend, and I am ready to put the sticker on my car! I am dealing much better with the parents and teachers that respond with “Really?” or “May I ask why?”
Back on the topic of being sad saying good by to schools, though the decision was ultimately clear once she visited for accepted students days, and we all feel good about it, she was absolutely sad to say good by to the various coaches. They all treated her very well and were respectful of her decision. We understand they are selling a program, even if it is just D3, so yeah, they are going to be nice. Still, she had a nice experience at many of the schools. She definitely had a hard time writing those emails.
Still undecided here I’m afraid. And while DC was leaning strongly to the in-state flagship at the beginning of last week, an unexpected full-ride scholarship offer from the Panthers arrived via UPS and changed the direction of the leaning 180 degrees. So, still undecided with all family members awaiting news anxiously. I fear I’d better getting running on the lido deck because all the Girl Scout cookies that @GoAskDad left me awhile ago are now long gone.
We didn’t do ED because finances are a big deal to us. But for my younger D, I will encourage her to apply rolling or EA as much as possible. Waiting is brutal! And very few reaches please - rejections are also brutal!
For 2018 son I think we will look at EA as much as possible, too. The past few months have been emotionally draining, even though 2015 daughter handled it all much better than her mother.
@scholarme, I’m finding that it’s as hard waiting for one’s child to make up her mind as getting college acceptance results. D applied EA to all but one school and that one responded early. So she had ALL her results by the end of February - maybe earlier It doesn’t mean she made up her mind any sooner. I thought we’d be done by now.
My D talks about her one classmate who applied early to one match school, got in, and was done because it’s where she wants to go. That must be so great.
Congratulation @woodsmom! What a great opportunity and honor, even if it muddies the water.
@scholarme, were were in the same situation as you. No ED because we absolutely needed merit aid for D to attend a private LAC like she wanted to. However, she did apply EA to any school that had that option, one of which was a rolling EA school. It did take some of the stress off knowing there were schools who wanted her. In the end it worked out very well for her.
^^ same as above.