Firstly, if she is not interested in coding or does not like it, then she should not be doing CS. At Stanford (and all the other schools on your list) you will have to do a LOT coding. Data Science and AI also requires coding.
Secondly, its a crap shot to get into Stanford or any of the elite private schools especially if you are an Asian American. However, being a female does give you a significant edge at MIT. Your best option is the Turing Scholars program at UT Austin, it is very selective and has a very good reputation. And being in-state in TX, the tuition cost will be only a fraction of a full pay at Stanford or MIT for an equally good education.