<p>I went through this last year. My boyfriend was a year ahead of me.</p>
<p>We had been together for two years and were extremely close. We had everything planned out – kids names, marriage, you name it. Looking back, I’m really cringing at myself for thinking I would go along with that, but back then it seemed inevitable. It felt like our relationship was so amazing that it overshot all other relationships in our school, and that nobody could “understand” it because they didn’t have a relationship like ours.</p>
<p>But then he moved away, and I got busy with school. Before he moved away, I cried every day and thought I’d never find another guy like him. But once he moved away and I got busy with my senior year, I realized that being in a LDR was terrible and our whole relationship was basically built on the fact that I had nothing better to do. Being busy really solidified that I wanted to be single. We had been inseparable for 2 years, but at the risk of many things, including social life.</p>
<p>So I broke up with him. He became really depressed and tried to kill himself. Now we’ve COMPLETELY changed courses. Omg, if I had stayed with him, I don’t know what I’d do. He became this free-flowing hippie spirit who is totally into meditation and harmony and love and I’m this rational mind who feels really uncomfortable with all that. I realized that I was really needy back in our relationship, but couldn’t grow out of it because we were so codependent on each other. Breaking up with him was the best decision ever, and now I’m entering Stanford in September with a clean slate. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve consoled over their LDRs, and even during Admit Weekend I met a girl who wasn’t able to have fun because her boyfriend back home was upset with her.</p>
<p>I’m not saying it can’t work, but I seriously thought that our relationship was meant to be and that we’d prove the others wrong. And honestly, I’m so glad I was wrong. Look at it this way: if you know you’re meant to be, you should be fine with seeing other people in college and then getting back together afterwards. That is what all the HS sweethearts I know have done, and it works because if you’re meant to be, it won’t matter who else you’ve seen. But if you’re worried about that and insist that you two HAVE to be together and can’t see other people, maybe you’re afraid she will leave you for another guy – which is a common fear, but in a mature relationship, that may be a lack of trust.</p>