<p>Thanks yulsie and others for your honesty. Calmom, I agree with the ideal that you state, but I suspect that a lot of decisions happen like yulsie’s, or curmudgeon’s (who said that he was willing to sell a kidney to finance his daughter’s big-brand-name option, until she finally decided to let him off the hook). </p>
<p>I know for myself I don’t have hard and fast financial parameters – or I do, but they are on the outer edges. In between, there’s a big cost-benefit calculation. Largely that’s up to my children in the first instance, but I wouldn’t pretend that I will feel equally good about my role in financing all choices.</p>