<p>^ Okay. If that is your definition of “sway,” then this big-name school has sway. But, my point is, I’d prefer that my questions here be taken at face value. I have asked a fairly simple question: money or big name. Like most people, I don’t want to be second-guessed about the things I’ve left unspoken. It is not up to you to ensure that I’m asking the “right” question for myself. I find that approach to be condescending.</p>
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<p>Also condescending ^. I think we both know what’s going on here. I was not looking for a specific opinion. I responded to your post the way I did NOT because you “didn’t give me the opinion I was looking for,” but because you gave me no opinion about the question I asked. Instead, you made a few presumptions and issued something close to a lecture. (“There are so many other considerations to take into account, it is not wise to make these the only two…”) When I clarified and specifically said, “for him, it basically IS about money or big-name,” you bothered to repeat yourself, question the basis for his scholarships, and conclude that one couldn’t possibly issue an opinion – there are “too many unknown quantities.” If you can’t answer the question … just don’t.</p>
<p>Just like you, I’m smart enough to know what I’m asking and why. </p>
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have at it gang!*</p>
<p>I see this ^ as an attempt to triangulate. It sounds like you’re trying to make it an “us” against “her” phenomenon. Not productive or healthy for a helpful discussion. I noticed in years past that the music forum was the friendliest, most helpful forum I ever visited on CC. There’s a lot of good going on here. I hope to keep it that way.</p>
<p>My son and I are under a whole lot of pressure right now. We are looking for very last-minute advice about an often-asked topic. I sure hope I get the chance to hear some people’s opinions.</p>
<p>([Does the level of education make a difference in the money vs. “prestige” decision?)</p>