Your gratitude and subsequent moral obligation are values many do not understand when it comes to use of money that they deem as taxable by government. Therefore, their gratitude mainly extends to government paying for things, even though the effect of government is often to make people dependent on government, while being many times less efficient and productive than a similar private endeavor.
Note how on this thread the contested issue is the IRS, i.e, government, does not get the money. This makes you, @widgetmidget, the classic “missing man” who is present in many errant economic analyses. In my view, the thread’s title is a flawed premise to the core. Why? Because it views sharing as something only done by government, the least efficient dispenser of money. On the other hand, it is economically undeniable that Brown chose to share its money with you. It is short-sighted not to be able to see that Brown’s activity is more akin to sharing than what government does…
Furthermore, you and countless others like you who benefit greatly from $billions in donations and from the schools being tax-free on endowments, then go on and become productive citizens that return the value many-fold, yet this thread does not even count you as a true you as a true beneficiary, as the title indicates - very shortsighted because you return so much more than an inefficient government program.
Fundamentally, the issue that moves me about your post is summed up in one word, freedom. Students, such as you, get assistance from schools to attend because you proved your merit, and you go on without ever needing the school again. However, you then come back and build the school up to give others the benefits you received. That is the essence of freedom - you are not shackled to the school or dependent on it after you leave and you are free to give money back.
In contrast, there are extremely few government programs (never found one actually) where the participants do not become dependent on said program or, simply after exhaustion, move on to another government program. The effect of government is not personal freedom, but “expectation” shackles where beneficiaries expect the public dole. Ergo, that is why government programs rarely shrink or become obsolete, even when they are ineffective. Brown and other schools do just the opposite type of expectation.
No doubt about it, in base economic terms, Brown makes much better use of the money than government could even dream of doing, and you are the perfect example that too many miss in their haste to give government more money under the false guise of sharing.