Struggling to find the right voice to comment on this. As a parent, I want my kids to experience difference in college, both people and experience. They have lived with us their whole lives, and now, because we are upper middle class, we can manage to send them off into this marvelous 4 year experience of private, residential college where the faculty and their peers continue their education before they assume the full responsibilities of adulthood. I want them to really see, and know, the complexity and diversity of human experience, to continue to grow to be empathetic, caring, warm adults. And that means recognizing that, while they have had challenges, they also have fundamental advantages because of the randomness of their birth, in terms of race, and class and educational background. And to be humbled by their good fortune and not consider that it is something “deserved.” If bumping into that difference shocks them, and even embarrasses them on occasion, well then so be it. They will be better parents, co-workers, friends, and community members because of that recognition. I have teenage and 20 something sons, I know they can be absolute idiots sometimes. But I also know they are capable of warmth and generosity of spirit, and that is what I look to their colleges to continue to foster.