<p>esobay - I spoke from my old fashion experience. I was afraid that my parents knew about my relationship with my classmates. Now, I understand and I am going to charge my camera now. Thanks!</p>
<p>Here is Los Angeles it’s called pre prom…parents host a number of kids and their parents for picture taking. We’re going tomorrow night. It’s a big pre prom…about 40 couples and various sets of parents. And then…to prom! …and after prom…</p>
<p>My D is also the t-shirt, jeans, converse sneakers and no makeup type. Tonight it will be a black, short and fluffy Betsy Johnson dress, french manicure, high heels and – just a touch of make up. My husband will have a heart attack – but not before sizing up her date!
I begged to do the pre-prom – we live down the street from the HS but no go, so it’s off to another girl’s house for the pictures. Oregonianmom, just call the pre-prom mom. I’m sure she’d love to have you. They genarally last under an hour.</p>
<p>oregonianmom, there’s a good chance the other parents will be doing that too. When I was in HS, we always had pre-formal events at my house (once my mom cooked; other times my group of friends all just met up for pictures). When senior prom rolled around, we had 14 couples in our group – between the limo and everyone’s parents who came to take pictures, our street was virtually blocked off!</p>
<p>oregonianmom, before D’s sophomore banquet we had 20 kids at a house for pictures, and every one had at least one parent with a camera. Before S’s prom the house where the limo picked up had all 8 limo-riders plus their parents and siblings taking pictures. By all means, go! It’s a great chance to meet and chat with other parents while admiring all your handsome and beautiful offspring.</p>
<p>OK, you talked me into it and I am playing the parent card! H, D and I will go over to the friend’s house and take pics (besides, H just got a new camera). After all, there’s only one senior prom. It’s going to be HOT today, and all these boys are wearing jackets. The girls with their strapless and spaghetti-strap gowns will be comfortable at least. ;)</p>
<p>go for it oregonianmom!! I think D, especially, will not regret it. </p>
<p>It is pretty common in our area for parents to take pictures beforehand as well. When S went to his prom jr yr (he is also an Aspie), he and his date were part of a group of 4 couples and we all gathered for pictures and a pre-prom celebration beforehand at one of the homes. </p>
<p>Taking those pictures was sure an awkward moment for me–it turned out that S’s date (not someone he was actually dating) was the daughter of one of the top (and somewhat intimidating) trial partners at the law firm where I work as a trial paralegal (we are a large firm and I have not actually had much contact with him so our relationship was not one that we joked about it together; certainly I was not accustomed to mingling with him socially!). I suspect the partner was just as surprised as I was to discover that our kids even knew each other since they were in different grades and had no classes together and had not gone to grade school together. So with this being S’s first “dating” experience I was more than a little concerned about what social faux pax S might inadvertently commit and jokingly cautioned S to just be polite and not to even touch his date (yeah, I guess that would make some of the dances a little awkward) - because I REALLY wanted to have a job the next day!</p>
<p>scansmom - awkward, but funny situation for you. I’m guessing everything went well?</p>
<p>It did - they both had a great time, we got some wonderful pictures; S wore gray and his date wore a nice shade of pink. Both are very tall and slim and they looked really nice together; S wore gray and his date wore a really nice shade of pink. This was 4 yrs ago - and I still have my job! Although I do get occasional teasing inquiries from co-workers who knew they went to the prom together about whether anything has “developed” between them (nothing ever did- they are still only friends) (sigh of relief) What a scary thought - having this trial partner as an in-law. Our families come from completely different social/economic worlds and would never mesh! ;)</p>
<p>Well, prom is over now, and my D had a great time (her word: amazing.) She, her boyfriend, and 5 other couples rented a limo that picked them up at a friend’s house - so, Oregonian, we took pictures here (when her date picked her up) and THEN we drove to the friend’s house to take more pictures! Most of the other parents were there, too. I’m glad we went, because the kids all looked fantastic and we got some great posed and casual shots.</p>
<p>Anyway, it’s done… and I think my D is having a little post-prom let-down. She really seemed to enjoy the dressing-up part (at least for a day) and seeing all her friends dressed up, too. For me: another milestone done.</p>
<p>Okay, so I’m not sure of my gemstome colors - sapphire? emerald? D’s dress was green and very similar to the one that Keira Knightley wore in “Atonement.”</p>
<p>I’m glad you’re going to go take those pictures, oregonianmom. I think there were eight couples going together to senior prom in my son’s group. Everyone’s parents came to take pictures at a one house. The family had a lovely garden, so the pictures were very nice.</p>
<p>Well, DD is currently at her senior prom with 20 of her best friends. Only 6 of the group are actually dating so they all just went together as a group. Everyone met at our house, I hired two limos (10 kids to each). I put out a spread for the kids and parents (shrimp cocktail, sushi, veggie platters, wrap sandwiches etc). I thought everyone’s parents would come and take pictures…and eat. There were many parents there but no where near the 40 that I had anticipated. I have soooo much food in my fridge left over. Hopefully the kids will raid the fridge later when they get back. I hate to waste so much food. Anyhow, they all looked so beautiful. I can’t wait to upload the photos onto my computer so my tired old eyes can actually see them!</p>
<p>We got lots of pictures! We took a bunch in the back yard of my S’s friend’s house. Also several in front of the limo. H is uploading the pics right now. The seniors all looked SO nice dressed up, and the limo got a lot of attention from the neighbor kids. They went to dinner and should be at the prom now, and the limo will bring my S home.</p>
<p>seiclan, that was nice of you to serve food! It sounds great.</p>
<p>My daughter is at prom now. We went to pre prom at the home of someone we didn’t know. There must have been 120 people there…the parents hired a professional photographer who took pictures of everyone who wanted them done (darn, I wasn’t dressed up enough to get pictures done). The parents served food and we all mingled. I saw parents that I haven’t seen since nursery school graduation (divorce…so we saw one half of the couple)…and all the parents took pictures of their own. It was beautiful. I hope that she and her boy friend (boyfriend…whatever) are having the time of their lives.</p>
<p>My son is also at his first prom…and just brought his date over so I could see her dress. It was sapphire blue! And she was sweet, pretty and nice as can be! First girlfriend looks to be a nice gal!<br>
They just changed and went to afterprom…can I complain now and say that despite all the good things about afterprom…someone near us fell asleep at the wheel driving home from the very event designed to protect teens…and died. I am not wild about the 3-4am driving! Sleep deprivation also causes accidents and impairment.<br>
well. on that light note, I will sign off. My son looked very happy, and takes way less risks than I did at his age.</p>
<p>I hope all of your kiddies enjoyed their proms! </p>
<p>Faline - what a tragedy - I just hate hearing stories like that. I know how easily that can happen.</p>
<p>Mine came back at around 1 AM as scheduled. I wonder why parents want to have afterprom events?</p>
<p>My daughter and her crew called me at about 10:45 pm to say that they were on their way back to our house and very hungry. They had enough of prom and the food was not to their liking. I sent DH out for 5 pizzas!!! They came in about 30 min later, changed into comfy clothes, sat and demolished all 5 pies, then settled in our family room (about 18 kids) to watch Indiana Jones (I had just bought the trilogy at costco). I am so glad that I didn’t have to deal with the alcohol/drug issues that some people have at prom. D’s crowd is a really good, clean cut group (mostly band kids) and everyone in it knew in advance that my house was not a booze house (of course i also took all of our liquor bottles and put them in the bathtub in the master bath…least we tempt anyone.) The kids were all asleep by 3ish. I had about 14 kids on about 8 assorted aerobeds in our loft (big open room upstairs) and the rest were asleep on sofas all over my house. I got up at 7 am and went out to get everyone dunkin donuts, coffee, and fresh hot bagels. We all had a grad party to attend at 11:30am so I am sooo tired right now. Long day and nite. Great memories for all.</p>
<p>Prom is now history for this year and now I’m an experienced Prom Mom. My son’s group was quite disorganized from a logistics and what to do afterwards standpoint. I wish they would have rented a limo. They all met at one girl’s house to car pool. The original group of 10 turned into a group of 15 as solo girls kept showing up. Thank goodness there were enough drivers. I don’t think the parents on whose house everyone descended was prepared for us other parents who wanted to take pix. The dad was mowing the lawn when we all arrived! Afterwards they all went back to the same house and played Wii for a few hours. My son and his date came over to our house for a bit (they were just on the next block). My son changed and I fed them a snack.</p>
<p>From now on, I’ll take control of logistics and after prom if any of my other kids go to prom. I’ll volunteer my house as the pre-prom house and serve snacks to the parents once the kids leave.</p>