<p>“However self-selected, a group of twenty or so current students with a wide variety of backgrounds and interests is going to convey a composite impression with a great deal of accuracy.”</p>
<p>If that had been the case at the party I referred, I couldn’t agree more; unfortunately, it wasn’t. </p>
<p>I’m sure many parties, as well as yours, are as you stated—but not /all/.</p>
<p>You’re very fortunate to live in one of the most densely populated areas of the country. As hard as it is to believe, many areas (think Vermont or NH) aren’t blessed with as many willing Smithie participants, as yours appears to be. Oh, the joys of urban living. 
Consequently, many parties don’t have the large number --or diversity-- of student and alumnae participation you’ve experienced. </p>
<p>And as you’ve discovered, there are far too many areas with no prospective parties whatsoever. Numerous <em>parties</em> in many areas of the country are no more than a few current students and an alumna, or two, if they’re lucky. It’s not possible to give an accurate representation of Smith with that insignificant a number—especially if the students/alumnae are of one ilk, socioeconomic background, etc. </p>
<p>It goes without saying, young women shouldn’t judge an entire college based on a few individuals. But 17 yr. olds can be fickle and make decisions with no rhyme or reason, as you well know.</p>
<p>If you’ll recall, during college visits, I believe both our daughters refused to even get out of the car at the same college. I’m still mystified :(</p>
<p>This isn’t a big deal! 
My point was, most prospective students are naive and aren’t cognizant some parties are as wonderful and diverse as yours, while others aren’t. I’d be remiss if I didn’t inform them all events are not created equal.</p>
<p>“And I think I would question the choice of the word “soiree” as applicable in either tone or function”</p>
<p>You’re reading far more into one word than necessary. Easterners like soirees. We’re at the County Club during the day ;)</p>
<p>Soiree: A party or reception held in the evening </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/soiree[/url]”>http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/soiree</a></p>