In your most recent thread, you posted this.
Do you qualify for a Pell grant? That is the only type of need-based aid you will receive from an out-of-state public school, apart from the possibility of a subsidized loan from the federal government. The max loan you can take out your first year is $5500 (and max of $28k over the four years).
As a result, I would eliminate UIUC, UMich, Virginia Tech, UMD, U. of Wisconsin, and Rutgers from the list, as they will all be over budget and they are all pretty stingy with merit aid.
If you’re willing to do loans (which you don’t need to do), then Georgia Tech and Purdue might be kept. UMass might give you enough merit aid to bring it within budget, so I would keep it if you’re really interested in it.
Then you have the private schools. Make sure your family runs the Net Price Calculator (NPC) at each private school, starting with MIT. If MIT does not come back with an affordable price, eliminate it (there is no merit aid) and also eliminate Cornell and CMU (which are generally much less generous than MIT in determining financial need). There is the possibility of getting sufficient merit aid at U. of Southern California, but I don’t think your odds of getting enough are very good there (as you indicate, it’s a reach just to get in, much less to also get significant merit aid).
So that reduces your current list to Georgia Tech, Purdue, UConn, and UMass, plus whatever privates that come in as affordable via the NPC.
The focus now needs to be on finding schools that will be affordable, because at the moment, only UConn is a definite yes. I’ll be back later with some possible suggestions.