The margin of academic superiority that Harvard over ivy and other top 20 schools probably not much. The excessive amore toward Harvard is probably showing some issue here. What about get over the “first love” if the relationship does work out? People who can move on usually find that life is not always a straight path, and it is actually better in this way, so our lives are more like an adventure book than a textbook. Yeah, there is some uptight and too serious here.