<p>Should you “insist”? That just doesn’t seem right to this parent. In your shoes, I would give the following speech: “Son, I strongly suggest you try to keep as many options open as possible. You will eventually have to make a decision. But things change, girlfriends can leave, your attitude and goals can change, and I would suggest you not close any door unless and until you have to. So, the deadline for calling your ALO is _____, it’s up to you to call or not call. As your parent, you should listen carefully to my advice, but, like an appointment to an academy, this advice is yours to accept or not accept (assuming the appointment is offered). My opinion is that you should contact him but it is definately not an order!” Good luck!!</p>