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<p>Sounds like this parent has always run interference for her child, so the child has not had any experience with the skills necessary to live independently.</p>
<p>These “kids” are med students for crying out loud. Sounds like they need a parentectomy.</p>
<p>I bet the son just tells his mother stories to get her off his back. You are collateral damage when the stories involve you or your house.</p>
<p>Email was just sent to the tenants along with copies of our email correspondence with the mother. My husband is more polite than I am, so his letter was very professional! That said, since I was the one emailing the attachments, I did mention in the body of the email that I was so sorry they were having so much trouble with their allergies, and that hopefully they would feel better soon. While I said that more to take a jab at the mother, they won’t notice it ;)</p>
<p>It will be interesting to see if the boys respond to me, forward the email to their parents, or do nothing. Because we have not been in the house since they moved in, I might have to visit after the holidays to see what kind of housekeeping they do and to see the condition of the house. I don’t really care if they live like boys as long as they aren’t destroying the place. From what I know of the main renter, that isn’t an issue, at least on the main level. The two with the allergies have the upstairs bedrooms and bath and if they are like my son’s roommate, the upstairs was never as clean as the main level which has the master bedroom and living areas.</p>
<p>I know they don’t have loud parties as our next door neighbor is the president of the homeowners association and is very particular and nosy; we call him Gladys Kravitz, from Bewitched. :)</p>
<p>I think a visit is a great idea. I also suggest you give them the minimum notice(written, of course) as is legally required of you, to give them less time for clean-up.
In my state 24 hrs is req’d except in emergencies of course.</p>
<p>Yes again to younghoss…we typically don’t go ‘visit’ our tenants unless they call or are late with their rent, but we DO visit everyone at least once a year and bring new batteries for the smoke detectors. We give them notice that we are planning a visit and we tell them if they aren’t there we (notice we…I mean H) will enter and replace the battery so they know he is actually going into the unit. You don’t really need an excuse to visit, but we typically give a heads up as is required by law so they can hide the not supposed to have animals and what not.</p>
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<p>Indeed. What’s ironic is how they’d cope once they start their internships/residency. They’d better be able to handle all their business…especially considering how little free time/sleep they’ll be in for. </p>
<p>I speak as someone who had medical intern/resident roommates for several years. Oftentimes, they’d prepare the rent/utility checks well ahead of time as they cannot always guarantee they’ll be present in the apartment within a few days of the payment due date as their long sometimes topsy-turvy schedules get in the way.</p>
<p>Limitations on residency work hours went into effect in 2003 [Resident</a> perceptions of the impact of work … [J Gen Intern Med. 2007] - PubMed - NCBI](<a href=“Resident perceptions of the impact of work hour limitations - PubMed”>Resident perceptions of the impact of work hour limitations - PubMed)</p>
<p>Here’s a 2010 update <a href=“http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/724953[/url]”>ACGME Proposes New Recommendations on Resident Duty Hours;
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<p>According to my intern/resident roommates, they all felt hospitals will figure out loopholes or exceptions to get around those limitations. </p>
<p>More amazingly, one of them was vehemently against such rules as he felt the limitation of hours will not provide enough hours/pressured environment necessary to train interns/residents up to standards. Hard to miss his angrily ranting about it after news of reduced residency hours came out.</p>
<p>Updates were done in 2008 and 2010</p>
<p>Son’s GF is now a chief resident. She still works more than the quota but can’t complain because she needs LORs in the coming months.</p>
<p>No doubt. But expect the number of consecutive or on call hrs. is far less than a decade ago.</p>
<p>I don’t know about a decade ago, but I went through it with my H when he was a resident 3 decades ago. I am sure it is better now and it should be.</p>
<p>A decade ago is when they first started to set limits on the intern/res hours</p>
<p>My guess is the golden boy has a girlfriend and is spending time with her and when Mommy calls and he isn’t home, he gives the excuse of the allergies to keep Mommy off his back :D.</p>
<p>I’m still dumbfounded that Mommy would even think that it was ok to email you.</p>
<p>If golden boy has an ouce of brains, he would say he is in the library so he can’t talk or respond to texts. Now THAT makes sense.</p>
<p>from what little we know, it is hard to side with the tenants. However, I want to toss out this idea:
If the mom truly is in the prop mgmt biz, then I could understand that these young men might turn to her to handle such a problem. Not necessarily because they are idiots, or still children, but because the mom may be far more experienced in such matters and might be thought of as more knowledgable and more adept as their advocate handling this. Suppose the young men were accused of a crime, and 1 of the mothers was an attorney. Would it then be so unusual for the mother to make calls?</p>
<p>Not necessarily saying I agree, but saying in this case I can understand. I’ll repeat that though they may want her help, it is still inappropriate to negotiate with her.</p>
<p>I think these boys are still a bit tied to the apron stings and this mom just decided to handle things for them. She may just be a neat freak as she told me she cleaned the house top to bottom the day her son moved in, which was two weeks after the first renter moved in. A week before the first moved in we had the house cleaned by the cleaning service, carpets cleaned, house, deck and driveway pressure washed, gutters cleaned, kitchen faucet replaced, and AC united cleaned and serviced. My husband and I also replaced bulbs in all light fixtures as well as a few small repairs that my son had neglected. At that time we did not noticed any mold, but that doesn’t mean we didn’t miss it, or it came after we left; I will give her the benefit of doubt. </p>
<p>As far as the mom being in the management business, I don’t know how true that is. With the help of google and Linkin, she worked (notice the past tense) in architecture and planning as project manager for commercial buildings. I am not saying the woman is knowledgeable, but she lives in a different city from the rental house and I am guessing her knowledge of the locals is limited!</p>
<p>So far the boys have not responded, but I am not surprised. The main renter will be the one to contact me, maybe after her talks to the other two. We did ask them to let us know how they stand on filters as neither my husband or I remember how many we left there. As both units take a different size filter, we also don’t remember the size, so ask the boys to let us know the size. I will just order from Home Depot or somewhere and have them shipped to the house.</p>
<p>I am not blaming the boys for the mother getting involved as I don’t know if that is something they wanted. They have been fine tenants for the last 3.5 months, and one will be a potential tenant for 4 years, so I would like to keep them! Only time will tell.</p>
<p>jym626- That may be the whole story right there ;)</p>
<p>While your points are well taken, younghoss, if she was in real estate management, wouldn’t she have known or arranged to get written permission to speak on the tenants behalf?</p>