<p>Conyat, I do understand and sympathize with your mother’s experience.</p>
<p>But we (thankfully) are not quite living in the same world any more. And if you put this under the microscope, it’s clear to me that there were some opportunities for your mother to have taken preemptive steps, and she did not do so. </p>
<p>For example, in today’s workforce, most people know to begin cultivating and seeking out their next opportunity their very first day of work at their new job. Today’s employee has to be nimble, flexible, and adaptable to changing market conditions. Even if one has a very, very good job, awesome boss, and terrific workplace conditions, things can change in a moment’s notice, and they often do: mergers, layoffs, the wonderful boss leaves and some new, horrible boss takes over, etc. </p>
<p>In your mother’s case, she might have seen that she was in a precarious position - she had a nice career, certainly, but, it was her responsibility to understand and anticipate that anyone at any moment could make it go away - AND - she was positioned in economic space (a small, southern city with few other employment options) where recovery would not be easy - and that’s exactly what happened.</p>
<p>I’m self employed now, and successful beyond expectations, but I’m also very aware that it can disappear overnight - a new piece of legislation, a new competitor emerging in the space, loss of a large client or two, or even my own health or some other event can quickly end the gravy train. And you know what? If it ends tomorrow, I already have “plan B”, and “plan C”, and even “plan D” in place, if I need it. I know EXACTLY what I will do next, and it’s all confirmed, down to specific commitments. </p>
<p>People do have to make uncomfortable and even unfortunate choices, but, the operative word is CHOICE. I am a HUGE fan of taking personal responsibility, and I’m strictly disciplined in the belief that each of us is in whatever circumstances we’re experiencing as a direct result of the choices we’ve made, or that we’ve failed to make.</p>