It is such a hard area to figure out - I will be following the discussion.
I think I’d rather my family err on the side of “a little too early” than “too late.” Not really time-wise, but condition-wise. I don’t know what to call it, but if it’s not looking good for me, and I’m going to be a huge burden, then I’m very OK with having “the plug pulled.” I have told the kids “do what makes sense,” NOT what will keep me alive.