Acceptance rates for women are particularly high at RPI and Rose-Hulman, and they’re great schools. But with the very unbalanced gender ratio, the dating pool for women-seeking-women could be uncomfortably small, if that’s an important factor for you. Plus, there won’t be a lot of being-around-humanities-majors.
If you like BU, are you also considering Northeastern and Tufts?
Consider Pitt, CWRU, and URochester.
Pitt isn’t necessarily a safety numbers-wise, but it’s rolling, so if you apply right when the app opens, you could get a very early acceptance, and at that point it becomes the best kind of safety! If you like the area around CMU, it’s right there, and the engineering programs are excellent. It’s not super-inexpensive OOS, but not terrible, and merit is possible.
URochester’s curriculum is especially good for students like you who have secondary concentrations in mind… and it definitely has the winter weather you like!
You might think about Smith. Their engineering major is a general engineering degree, but it’s ABET accredited, includes EE content, and can be tailored to emphasize that direction. Plus, you can cross-register at UMass Amherst, so that opens up more coursework possibilities. Terrific place to be around humanities majors and as LGBTQ+ friendly as any school in existence… and you’d like the weather as well. Plus, merit $ is possible. (UMass Amherst itself could also be worth considering.)