Ridiculous aid... I need some help or advice

Admits from the WL are less likely to get good aid, unless the school claims to fully meet demonstrated need. Whatever you do, don’t take 80k in loans. Take a gap year and reapply, perhaps to a different set of schools (your family income is sufficiently low to get a full or near-full ride at many schools if you have the stats for admission), or defer your admission and do a year or two at community college.