It sounds like your GPA and test scores are too low for the colleges you hoped to attend. There are thousands of schools in the US so you can find one that’s right for you, but you need to work with the situation you have.
If I understand your post correctly you have:
- a 3.3 GPA
- one AP class (with a 5 on the exam)
- a lopsided SAT score (“low” writing but okay reading and math)
- Asperger’s and ADHD
- a mother who doesn’t seem to want you too far away
- a dad who lives several hours away
If you want help finding a school we need more information. Where you can go to school depends on your parents as much as your academic record. Will they let you dorm or do they want you to commute to a local college? How much can they afford to pay? What’s your SAT score? Is the 3.3 GPA weighted or unweighted? What state are you in?
If you can answer some of these questions we may be able to help you.