This is so true. D26 is very undersized, but managed to get to the recruitable level. Beyond that is not in the genetic cards.
Mine has experienced this as well. At the end of the day, she’s going to school for a degree, and needs to be academically prepared. Hard stop. That’s why we opted to pour resources into test prep vs private coaching and camps. We just accept that our family values don’t align with some other sports families.