<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>attitude is everything. be positive and friendly and it’s hard for people not to return the feelings. </p>
<p>I didn’t think you’d cause a stir about ramps. The girls probably never gave it a thought before. Since most of the frats and soros I know of do things for others, they probably never thought to do something for themselves. </p>
<p>good luck</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>Well, I rushed three houses (of four), really liked two, and was lukewarm about one (nice girls but didn’t seem to be "my type). I got a bid yesterday from my top choice (ironically, the most inaccessible house physically) and was overjoyed. The girls seemed studious, laid back, and friendly. I loved the rush events that including studying bio while watching TV as group and playing board games and the “come and go (but you can always come)” feeling I got from the house. It feltr so much like UM did when I visited; it felt, I guess, like “fit.”</p>
<p>I would like to join, but I’m holding back a bit until I can talk to my parents about dues and their feelings about everything (as Cc so often demonstrats, Greek can be quite the lighting rod!) and thinking through everything carefully… That have seen my smile when I got that bid email! :)</p>
<p>I’m not posting any na,es now, but if I do go with my instincts and pledge, I’ll announce it.</p>
<p>Thanks and your thoughts, as always, are more than welcome!</p>
<p>-wp, a surprisingly happy PNM</p>
<p>wp,</p>
<p>This is such great news. Congratulations!!!</p>
<p>Congratulations! Great ending to your story. When I was doing recruitment for my university’s greek system (trying to get incoming students to go through the process) I always told people that they’d “just know” which house they belonged in when they got there. I’m glad you found that!</p>
<p>!!!Congratulations!!!</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>Congrats, Wolfpiper!</p>
<p>Feel free to forward me your parents’ concerns through PM. I can try to alleviate their worries. I am not just Greek myself, I am a parent of a freshman NM. The Office of Greek Life at your school most likely has an employee there who can answer your parents’ questions that are specific to your campus.</p>
<p>Congratulations, Wolfpiper! I hope all goes well with your discussion with your parents.</p>
<p>Thanks for all the well wishes! I’ve been really surprised by the lack of anti-Greek backlash so far on this thread. Should I take that as you guys thinking I’m not that liable to become the type of alcoholic, elitist party animal many people think of Grreks as (regardless of the truth)? If so, I appreciate the vote of confidence! :)</p>
<p>Well, my conversasion with my mom was… strange. Her reaction was kind of flat, like “Oh? You REALLY rushed…?”, as though she was thinking I made the whole thing up or something. She’s mentioned she was, while not Greek, a “little sister” to frat for a while, but she never really talked about Greek life either way. I think she knows me well enough to know I’m not going to be a big drinker as alcoholic culture was always MY concern when looking at colleges. She did ask about hazing… I’m hoping that won’t be problem with these girls, but you never know. They don’t seem like the types to haze, though, especially a cripple (used in self-depricating, old fashioned way, not a term I usually approve of). Didn’t mention dues (I wasn’t even sure if she knew they had them). It’s a good chunk of change (about 1/4 of what we’re paying now, actually, which is nice to be able to say! 
), but I should be able to cover it with savings if push comes to shove. So… I don’t know what my parents think, really.</p>
<p>I’m goinmg to email my contact with a few things about dues, housing, pledging, etc. I’d like to get cleared up, and unless I see any red flags, I’ll probably bite the bullet and join. I smile just thinking about my time there, so tjhat’s a good sign, right?</p>
<p>WP, my hunch with your mom’s reaction is that she didn’t want to get too excited perhaps because if for some reason it didn’t work out, she may just be worried and is processing it right now</p>
<p>it may not be about the rushing at all, but the letting go, and seeing her D figuring stuff out, but at the same time, worrying a bit</p>
<p>give her some slack, and she will come around…if my D rushed, it would surprise me and I might react the same way</p>
<p>congrats!!!</p>
<p>I’m glad that you had the courage to follow through on your interests.
Best of luck to you as you make your decision/
I imagine that your mom is like some moms I know who were surprised that their Ds were interested in pledging. Going to college sometimes brings out sides of offspring that parents didn’t know existed and that sometimes the offspring didn’t know existed. Your mom may simply have never thought that you were gregarious enough to want to be in a sorority. I know that’s how one of my friends’ reacted when her D – who was always known for being very quiet and shy – decided to check out the sororities. The mom didn’t know what to say, but it wasn’t because she didn’t like sororities, she just had never thought her D would be interested in them.</p>
<p>Smiling about your time there: Yes, that is a good sign!</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>Congratulations, WP. </p>
<p>I’m actually not pro-Greek and maybe that’s an understatement but I like your reactions and I like the feel of the process as reported by you. Also, from reading a few dozen of your posts over the months, you’re not the type of kid [no offense meant at usage] that I worry about…I think you have a good head on your shoulders.</p>
<p>I was going to post exactly what TheDad did. If you feel good there, it’s probably a good place. Trust your instincts.</p>
<p>Congrats, Wolfpiper. There are certainly negative aspects to Greek life, but positive ones as well, particularly at a school where there are many different Greek houses. Simply by default the houses are not all the same. My D is a non-drinking person who began her college search by rating colleges for their lack of drinking, ended up at a school famous for its partying, and then went Greek - ending up in a totally different place than she thought she would be. She remains non-drinking, though through the process.
She is out of the mainstream at her school, but she is OK with that, she has a wide circle of friends, enjoys much of sorority life, and rejects the rest - I guess I call that independence.
Many parents here reject Greeks because of the drinking (duuhhh), but another significant objection is the simple idea of an exclusive club - the ramifications of this I think, have been more of a problem to her than the drinking.</p>
<p>I agree with the other parents. Thinking of you in a sorority does not worry me. In fact, as I said, I am very happy for you about it. I know that you are a responsible person, and I know that your judgment and actions are and will be sound.</p>
<p>THANK YOU for all your wonderul and supportive posts and your faith in me! After talking it over yesterday with my mother, I accepted Delta Gamma’s bid… I stiill have official paperwork to fill out, but in all likelyhood, I’m going to be a DG! :)</p>
<p>Congratulations, wolfpiper! Delta Gamma is an excellent sorority - I hope you like anchors!</p>
<p>:) .</p>