I’m a teacher married to a teacher-- I certainly understand all too well about how expensive college is. I understand all the “help me find a school that is generous with aid” threads.
What I don’t understand is how someone who doesn’t have the money to begin with can be as picky as some I’ve read. It’s got to be Ivy-- or, at worst, top 20 or 30 or something along those lines. And it’s got to be in the right part of the country and have the right feel and a billion other little things.
My kids have it much easier: it’s pretty much going to be SUNY. (My son did one year at a school in PA, and decided on his own that, as much as he loved it, the price tag was too high. I’m so glad he realized it.)
When you’re asking someone else to foot the bill, it’s generally wise to be happy with whatever they can manage to give you.
Dear cardiologist scheduler: do not chew me out for calling you back at 4:45 because you have not returned my 8:00 phone call and then say that you have given me an appointment time and date that will come via post card.
I work for a living and your job is to meet my needs. I cannot just jump to your bec and call when you think I should be available.
I could have made the appointment that you snottily told me is on the card you mailed today. And would have agreed to it if you’d arranged an appointment in a conversation like normal folk. But to make a point… no, we’re setting a different one. Together.
My co-worker’s wife who was caught up in the travel ban because she is Iraqi and was there visiting her parents, is still not allowed back into the country. Now we are losing one of our best employees so he can spend some time with his wife. Great :-?
I totally support your sister & brother-in-law’s desire to adopt a child. It’s wonderful and I wish them all the best and I bet that they’ll make great parents. But holy cow, did they really open a Go Fund Me page and are asking donations for people to pay for the adoption fees?
I don’t even know your sister or your brother-in-law. And you’re asking me and everybody you know to give them money for this. Sorry, but no.
If they can’t afford adoption fees, you know what? There are tons of needy children in foster care just waiting for a wonderful family to adopt them. That probably doesn’t fit the bill, though, for what they wanted. They want to adopt an infant. They should pay for the adoption themselves or become foster parents or not parent at all.
And now, on top of all that, you’re promoting another person’s Go Fund Me page? For somebody else who I don’t even know. How about heck no.
So now you’re talking about finding a field, sitting under a tree and having a picnic??? When is the last (or first!) time we’ve ever done that? Do you not realize that at our ages, this is not going to be fun?
I wonder how old you will be when you realize that your “observations” are hurtful to others.
Then when you are told you focus on your own discomfort instead of the other person’s feelings.
Ok, it is wonderful that you are having a multi-generation family party to celebrate your 103 year old uncle…but he wasn’t a slave…there was no slavery in the USA in 1914 . Your uncle is pulling your leg
Lin-Manuel Miranda, my small town has a lovely performing arts center. We also seem to have some issues with understanding respect, tolerance, & diversity, so I need you to bring Hamilton to our town post-haste to change some hearts.
Must not read the Project Runway thread until I’ve seen the show.
Must not read the Project Runway thread until I’ve seen the show.
Must not read the Project Runway thread until I’ve seen the show.
Must not read the Project Runway thread until I’ve seen the show.
What I wish I had said to my friend’s husband who asked me “So… what did you pay for her?” :
“Actually, you don’t buy a child. She’s not a pet or an appliance. We paid for services of the many, many people who cared for her, or in some way helped the process. But to answer your question directly? She ‘cost’ about the same as your daughter ‘cost’ except that medical insurance paid most of your wife’s pre-/ post-natal care and labor services. Thank God we had the resources to do this! Wonder how many of those baby GoFundMe’s would spring up if there was no medical insurance (which I gladly pay into) for sharing the cost of births!”
What I did say to the former co-worker/ex friend with several bio kids, who retorted…after I excitedly shared my just-received photos of my new daughter-to-be . “too bad you’re adopting a foreign child, with so many Americans in foster care”
“That’s wonderful you’re such an advocate for foster children. How many foster children have you adopted?”
What she said: “I didn’t have to. I had my OWN.”
What I wish I had then said:
“Yes, and that, too was a choice, just as this is mine. Would you have chastised me in the same way if I had shown you a sonogram?”
Wow, that was years ago! Didn’t realize until today it was still bothering me SO MUCH.
So glad you came by to say goodbye last night. That is the you I will remember until you are back again from school. I wish you lots of good times there and cannot wait to hear all about them.
Want to drive the moderators crazy? Report posts and write something like, “Why haven’t you deleted this post??? Upi deleted mine!” as if we’re letting stuff slide by on purpose. Sorry we can’t look at thousands of posts instantaneously! Also, keep in mind that when we make tough decisions, some people will be upset and think we’re doing a horrible job. It feels like a no-win situation at times.
