I always tried to let my kid do the talking, even though that was hard sometimes. But I asked the coach at the program he ended up at about 5 different ways if the was really an offer, how solid was the offer, what can change this, so are you REALLY giving him an offer, etc. I’m sure it was comical (and a bit annoying) from his point of view, but 99% sure was not enough for me to let S tell other coaches he was off the market.