If any of the schools in post 6 are your instate choice with full tuition…that would be a great choice.
Any of these your instate choice?
And adding…there is not a flagship university in this country that is “like high school” or where your kid will even need to see high school classmates if she doesn’t want to. I’m not trying to convince you to send your kid to your flagship…but the reasons you have posted for not doing so are poppycock.