<p>I don’t know anything about which schools would be good. I just wanted to offer encouragement - with your excellent grades and SAT, and graduating on time, despite your challenges, you should do pretty well in admissions, including possibly getting some hefty merit scholarships. Of course, there may be schools that will illegally reject you based on your disability, but you’re probably used to that. 
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<p>My son has a much less severe physical disability and may not be able to drive (and is far away), so he needs to find friends who can drive him around. When I was in college, I had a good friend who was severely physically disabled. She had lots of help from friends - lots of friends. (I never had anywhere near as many friends as she did, nor does my son.) In your case, your excellent academic abilities should help you draw people who can use your tutoring help!</p>
<p>I understand and support your desire for independence. Almost all teens want that. But if your main reason for wanting to go away is the independence, I don’t think that’s wise. There are many threads discussing distance from home. What I see is that you can be far away in the same town quite easily. If you could live in the dorms at UNC, your parents could come visit you as needed, and you would also be becoming more independent of them just by not living with them, by asking a friend to do a favor, etc. You could become more independent more naturally, rather than just having their support ripped away from you.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>