I am not about to discount the way you feel, because those are valid feelings. I would just like to point out that Asian males are not the only ones who experience this sort of thing … at Vandy or at other schools.
D’s roommate was African American - and she didn’t hang with other AA students. The interests she had / things she did just didn’t lend themselves to getting to know many others of her race. She has never seen herself as being any different than anyone else, so she didn’t self-segregate by her race. Like my D, though, she did self-segregate in other ways.
My D (and her roommate) had no interest at all in the party scene. She didn’t want to go to parties, didn’t go to bars, didn’t rush, etc. This did result in a degree of self-segregation. She was okay with it, because she has never wanted to be in with the in-crowd, so to speak - but it did make it a bit more difficult to find her place, something her roommate experienced, as well. But that is how it works everywhere when you are not interested in what “most” people are into. D hosted a radio show, was involved in a leadership position in a charitable group on campus as well as with the Music Group, did summer research for a professor and did several internships off campus. She was involved in the music community in Nashville (not country - there is more to Nashville that country). She was part of mtvU, went to professional society meetings in town, etc.
The point is, there are ways to move beyond the box it may feel others are putting you into. It can take some time and some creative effort, but if you are at Vandy you have the tools to make it work for you. You’ll develop some great life skills in doing so … while getting a top-notch education.