I apologize for making it seem like it was only Asian males who feel this way. That was not my intention at all, and I fully support the idea that this is more of a minority thing than just an Asian thing. I suppose I was a bit blinded by bias when i wrote the original post 
Your daughter’s experience is something that a lot of minorities that I have met have experienced, and is certainly another dimension to self-segregation. However, I think that the key difference between your daughter’s experience and mine is the fact that your daughter did not WANT to conform to the “in-crowd”. My argument in my original post was that even if a minority DID want to conform, it would be exceedingly difficult because of the inherent bias that the majority of the students at Vandy have.