Happy, I wasn’t chastising you in any way … just stating that self-segregation happens to lots of people. It’s common not only at Vandy, but in lots of places (not just colleges). Again, I am not trying to discount anything you feel. I’m just saying that there are others in the same boat. And to be honest, I can’t say for sure that if my D had wanted to conform, that she would have easily fit in the way she may have wanted to fit … no way to know. I just know that it is possible to find your own way … and even if you never really do (my S never did at his college), it’s not a big deal in the scheme of things. Life is so much more than the social aspects of 4 years in college, but the education remains with you forever.