<p>I would say definitely not. Even if you do feel like you’re going to marry him/her, I would advise against it just because college is your time to change and grow. It’s hard to do that if you have a boy/girlfriend that you’re spending all your time with that may not allow to you grow in a way you would otherwise. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. College isn’t a time to get married, it’s a time to figure out who you really are</p>
<p>First, I am not convinced there is not “one perfect school” - just some that are more or less optimal. You get out of most schools what you put into them, so meeting in the middle on a single school isn’t necessarily bad. That said, if you get down to decision-making and both have a common suitable school, I would recommend looking at student body size and housing. If there is a breakup in a student body of 1000, avoiding the inevitable awkwardness is tough. Another item I would not have considered until my child went through a breakup - choose different dorms if you both go to the same school. First, it will give you more opportunities to talk to different classmates and increase your social circle. And if the relationship does go south, you won’t be stuck staring at each other while running laundry.</p>
<p>Education should come first. Sometimes I wish I went where my girlfriend is, but I know I wouldn’t have as much opportunity for my major and for myself at her school, and she wouldn’t have the same opportunities for herself at my school. You should not let a relationship deter you from going to your dream school. What’s great about my situation is that she is only 2 hours away from me, so I can visit her every now and then. </p>
<p>Long distance can work out, but only you and the other person can determine if it can work out for you. If you truly love the person in your relationship you wouldn’t let them drop a great opportunity for you.</p>
<p>There are lots of factors to consider because education is important, but ask God to give you wisdom. Too often we put the world before our own spiritual needs and realize years down the line what an empty sacrifice that was. People are important! Yes ultimately more important than education and prosperity. Your relationships are sacred so do not lose a chance to build a life with your true love or you may end up co-existing in a shallow, made for profit marriage later. That would not be wise!</p>
<p>No, this should not affect the decision at all. I mean really, there is a whole world of girls/boys out there to explore</p>
<p>Education is more important. Don’t go to a worse school because of your girlfriend / boyfriend. However, if it is just about which town you like or a little difference in tuition a good relationship it worth taking compromises.</p>
<p>You must keep your focus on your education first. We have quite a life ahead to live. So this is the right time to study and focus only on career. We don’t know whether our partner is going to live with us forever. And also once time is gone we can not do some things again. It is just as that we can go forward but can’ be coming back.</p>
<p>Personally, I wouldn’t crowd source for opinions on this kind of thing. </p>
<p>Honestly, i think its a bad idea and rather impulsive. </p>
<p>I am a teenager myself and peer to peer in my opinion that is a hell to the noooo. Do not settle for less or go by the flow just so you can be with your boyfriend.</p>
<p>The cliche is true: there are a lot of other fish in the sea</p>
<p>In my opinion, regardless of how long you have been together, the strength of the relationship, and more, a relationship shouldn’t affect your college decisions. It is 4 YEARS of your life. You should enjoy them at the school of YOUR dreams. Not where your partner is going. Now, if the college of your dreams happens to be where your partner is/is going then fine. Go. But don’t choose a college based on a person. You could end up unhappy there or break up shortly after. This is just my opinion. Your college decision, your 4 year life decision, should be more than a single person. It should be where you wish to go and where you wish to live. </p>
<p>In my opinion it really should not play a role. While I;m sure the relationship is important, there are tons of other girls/guys out there</p>
<p>WasatchWriter nails it. If you get into schools X and Y, and would rather go to X (particularly if it’s because they have better programs for your academic interests) but you go to Y to be with your significant other, and the relationship fails (odds are it will, sorry), will the sacrifice be worth it?</p>
<p>Here’s an even better question to ask yourself: If you and your BF are perfect enough for each other for the relationship to last 4+ more years, then why hold each other’s feet to the ground? </p>
<p>Yes, it’s a bad idea to go to a school for the sole purpose of physically staying with your significant other. </p>
<p>My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 3.5 years, 1.5 of which have been long distance, because I decided to go to school on the other side of the country (because it’s what was best for me) and he supported me. If your relationship is strong and supportive, neither of you should have to sacrifice your dreams or goals to stay together. Because that’s not what a strong and supportive relationship is. </p>
<p>I know that most people will tell you the reason you shouldn’t is because “your relationship won’t last” and “you’re JUST a teenager”, but that isn’t why it’s a bad idea. Regardless of where you are in life, your job in a relationship is to support and love your boy/girlfriend, and if someone asks you to give up your dreams for them, they aren’t fulfilling their duty. That’s why it’s a bad idea.</p>
<p>I mean come on! People are deeming you responsible enough to determine your life-long career right now, but at the same token, you aren’t competent enough to know if you have a life-long relationship?? 'Cause that’s some bull. Never let anyone hold you back from doing what you know is right for you, even if it’s a hard decision to make, because the person you should be with will want what’s best for you.</p>
<p>Well i think it would depend on multiple things. First of, if you both get into a good school and both can afford it then there is nothing bad with going to the same school. However, if you can’t afford a certain school or you would have to settle to one of the lower schools because your boyfriend didn’t get accepted into a good school but you did, then I personally think its a very bad idea. The main reason is because, for whatever reason, relationships can come to and end. If you guys break up then you’ll be stuck in that school for no reason.</p>
<p>No. I believe that love or “feelings of like love” should not determine where your education takes place. If you are truly in love then distance for a couple of years should have no effect whatsoever, I believe you will find each other one way or another</p>
<p>No for undergraduate. Probably for graduate school.</p>
<p>Only if you’re engaged/married. Anything less serious -no. If you truly care about each other, then the relationship should survive the distance.</p>
<p>I had a friend who was a brilliant student, but very, very boy crazy (teenage hormones definitely singled the poor girl out). Her boy friend was, to be honest, very average. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, she was at a much higher level than he. Unfortunately, she chose to attend a school with him, as opposed to her own. And while their relationship was very long and happy, she regretted that choice every day. Thankfully, she was able to use that caliber to her advantage, and transfer to a more prestigious school later on.</p>
<p>They were a great match, and loved each other very much. But in the end, it is always best to pick a school that matches /you/. After all, even the best couples are not carbon copies of each other.</p>