<p>I don’t believe in large, sweeping, normative statements. There are often many solutions to the same set of variables.</p>
<p>My daughter worked, always. She loved babysitting; she was the assistant teacher for dance classes and she worked as a camp counselor.</p>
<p>My son hasn’t worked because he spent hours and hours and hours practicing his instrument. Then he organize a group to perform for nursing homes, hospitals, etc. and did quite a few performances. Working would have interfered with mastery of his instrument.</p>
<p>Two very different children. Different sets of circumstances.</p>
<p>S worked a very little bit giving lessons on his instrument.</p>
<p>D did work study and spends a lot of money in NYC.</p>
<p>S did not do work study and spends no money.</p>
<p>Again, two very different children; two different solutions. Why do we need rules?</p>