Should I be considering private colleges as a member of the middle class?

Our schools didn’t ask how much we were paying for the other child in college, nor does FAFSA if I remember correctly. They only seemed to care if there were other children in college, not how much those colleges cost (unless it was a military academy). For one child I don’t pay much of the billed costs but her sister still gets credit for having a sibling in college. I’m sure some schools care (CSS?) but some don’t.