Sorry but I think it is you who is being rude. The answer in every case is that th admissions department at each college is the only place that can give you a definitive answer as to if dropping an AP class can negatively impact your chance for admission.
I would recommend that you email your regional admissions officers if your calls go unanswered. It is better to get the response in writing
And of course if the class is not listed on applicantions you haven’t submitted yet then those schools do not need to be notified if you drop the class.