It’s funny I’m in almost the exact same boat as you. I’m not saying that this is what you should do but quiting band was a great discision for me. The energy that I used in band can and will be given to hw and projects that I actually want and need to do. Besides if I (we) liked band that much we wouldn’t be strongly considering stopping. Sorry if this wasn’t helpful but I just wanted you to know that you aren’t alone in this problem. Xxx