So…now that I know the conversation I feel more confident in what I did (with your help!). At this point, I need to back off. Younger son doesn’t want me to say anymore than I did. Oh yes…he even mentioned every time older son looks at the painting he’ll think of how he didn’t pay his brother.
I’m not saying anything more to older son as younger asked me not too. I have to honor that request to maintain a trustful relationship with him. I’ve tried to give him other ways to look at it and he did, which I think helped.
I find that parenting at different ages needs different skills. What I could do or say when they were little, teens, college age and now young adults is different. My personality is still the same and the way I deal with them is mostly the same , but I have to massage it a bit.