<p>What a difficult decision. You are receiving lots of input here from many parents. </p>
<p>On friendship, I have a new thought: since you’re just an hour away and you’d mentioned wanting not to lose touch with friends, you can stay in touch online, or even drive out to see them here and there when you take a break (and you should sometimes). Then you will be reaching out to friends but on your own timeline and choice. Many people find it helps to clear your head to talk with others outside an intense situation, in which case a quick visit out to campus on a given day might be doable just for change-of-scene. </p>
<p>The timeline lunitari sent you (Post #29) is much better (i.e. more detailed) than the one I used for guidance. I wonder if lunitari’s resource is specific to brain cancer or holds true for all kinds of cancer? Anyway, if you can place your Dad on that timeline, it might help you decide things about your own activities. </p>
<p>Ditto the strength from reading Lance Armstrong (post #30).</p>
<p>If you don’t have Hospice in place to guide and support your family, I do recommend them with all my heart. </p>
<p>Something else you mentioned causes me to recommend this easy-read, consoling best-seller that was a big help to people from all (or no) faiths: **When Bad Things Happen to Good People **. It was written by someone who faced an untimely death in his own family. He was able to separate these unexpected, unfair life events from a sense many have that somehow they or their family are being punished for no apparent reason.</p>