<p>I think that you should also know it is not hard to find your D’s identity simply through the information that you/your wife posted about your D especially through her ECs (your chance thread shows up in a lot of different forums also). </p>
<p>One can now link to your D through a number of different ways. The 2 of you did your child a major disservice about posting so much stuff about her. So before you get mad at anyone and talk about what is and what is not unacceptable, that conversation needs to start in your own house.</p>
<p>Once you google her name, there is a laundry list of stuff that is out there. Now, no matter how much you clean up stuff, there will be things that remain out there attached to your child. </p>
<p>Considering all of the stuff that you, her parents have posted about her, I would not be suprised if your D, who does look like a nice young woman, probably wants a hole to just open up and cover her up, because the 2 of you did her no favors. I understand that you are proud of your girl (and rightfully so), but as her parents, you have done [her a disservice – Ed. MWFN]. </p>
<p>I hope that your D can have an amazing college experience in spite of the 2 of you. Remember the internet makes the world smaller than you think.</p>
<p>POIH, nobody here is trying to malign the girl whose website that is. She is clearly a lovely girl - intelligent, hard-working, creative, and caring. She deserves every good thing that comes to her. I hope that she goes to a college that truly makes her happy.</p>
<p>sybbie719: I think you are entitled to your opinion and if you think what ‘Columbia_Student’ did here on this thread is right then be it. I hope the parent and the student of that web site is able to cope up with this invasion of their privacy and the attempt to link to this thread.
I have no reason to believe that the said website has anything to do with this OP. </p>
<p>I’ll stay off this thread as I wanted to but I couldn’t see this happening to some innocent high school student.</p>
<p>POIH, linking to something – if anyone did that – that is **published on an open website ** is not an invasion of privacy. If it’s an open website, a page someone can link to and see the information on it, it’s not private.</p>
<p>OK - I admit I’ve had some fun on this thread. But I want to chime in now on on more serious note -and I know everyone will probably not agree with me. </p>
<p>I think ALL posters on CC should be aware of how easy it is to go research posts, google, and identify posters and their sons and daughters. </p>
<p>That said, I really don’t like the idea that some posters go to the extra effort to do this and then give hints for others to follow suit. Columbia student, I don’t think your intent was to harm. And you have a right to do what you want. But I really think it’s a shame that an innocent young girl is tied up in this just because here parents were naive. I just can’t see taking steps to make a what looks like a bad situation even worse. Yes, it’s a lesson for the parents - but it’s really too bad for the kid. </p>
<p>My opinion - let’s all show some restraint.</p>
<p>Things did get out of hand as a lot people are posting and suggesting things. But that post was also deleted by a moderator. I promise I will show some restraint with regarding to posting private information in the future.</p>
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<li>We don’t know whether the high school student is POIH’s D or the OP’s D or someone else’d D. </li>
<li>We don’t know whether POIH and the OP are related in any way.<br></li>
<li>We do know however, that the high school student is someone’s child- and we wouldn’t like it very much if our own kid got this type of treatment.<br></li>
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<p>I don’t think that Columbia Student meant any harm by his post on this thread- although I do think he acted without restraint, and as a result some harm was done. It would have been far better to PM/email the person you are trying to help than to put that out there for all to see. </p>
<p>As for snobbery- I also think that there are many on these boards, and in the world, who like to yuk it up at the expense of those with whom they do not share a worldview. There are different kinds of snobs out there-the only mistake the OP made was trusting the bunch on CC enough to pose a question.</p>
<p>If you want to retain some modicum of privacy, I would kindly suggest you remove all the references to your D from YOUR OWN social networking site. </p>
<p>Your are complaining that some posters suggested a link to your D’s website, while at the same time, you plaster all types of confidential information about her, her intended schools, a link to her research website and even your plans to move to Boston on a page accessible to all. From googling just a few keywords about what you disclosed on CC about your D, it took me all of 30 seconds to get to YOUR page. Don’t blame others for picking up the trail when you leave crumbs all over the place!</p>
<p>BTW, your D seems like a very nice and talented young lady and will probably thrive at MIT, if that is where she intends to go.</p>
Ouch, I’m a zero. And the worst part is, I even cheated on a question to raise my score! I hang my head in shame at my unworthy lack of sophistication.</p>
<p>So I leave the forum for one day and there are, like, 150 new posts to read! How will I ever catch up? Perhaps I shouldn’t bother, as I’ve now seen objective and irrefutable proof (in the form of a 5-question survey, no less!) that I’ll never make it among the snobs.</p>
<p><sigh> :(</sigh></p>
<p>Where’s the test for smart@$$ery? geek_son says I might have a chance at that one.</p>
<p>Edit: After reading this, I think there might be a glimmer of hope after all.
Same here! But the question said “a friend.” If I can be snarky about non-friends, does that qualify? :)</p>