The only thing running through my mind while reading this thread was “nobody owes me nothin’.” Well, except maybe University of Hawaii, since I pay state taxes. Otherwise, if you can figure out I’m an administrative assistant, my husband is a high school teacher, and my kid didn’t go to Punahou or a similar prep school, your admissions committee knows we can’t afford a full-price private college.
My kid’s job is to convince you she brings something to the table worth charging her less. “Demanding” anything else is asking for welfare from intuitions who are not obligated to provide it.